I'm taking a few days off the forum

[Sprite-1]

Following a furious row with my bossy and overbearing sister Wendi and because I have a mountain of difficult homework, I'm having to take a few days off the forum.


I'm so tired. Not from lack of sleep but from all the school homework and what is unreasonably demanded of me by Wendi when I apologized for not doing the washing up, I had to defend myself when she lashed out. She landed on the floor again. I hope she will learn not to hit me ever again, but I am taking legal advice about her. I would much rather live with Julie who is gentle.


I had a good cry, then decided to take time off here until taking legal advice about Wendi's bullying, and I must complete my coursework. I need 100%, I can do it. But it means I must stay off this lovely forum.



I'll miss you. But I'll be back.





Tommy.

[Everglow.]

I'm sorry to hear you're having issues with Wendi and I hope you manage to find a suitable solution for it. If there's anything we can do here to help feel free to let us know - TH is always here when you need it. Take as much time as you need.

[Sprite-1]

Originally Posted by Everglow.

I'm sorry to hear you're having issues with Wendi and I hope you manage to find a suitable solution for it. If there's anything we can do here to help feel free to let us know - TH is always here when you need it. Take as much time as you need.

This is the lovely thing about TeenHelp. It will always be here and my friends and helpers, you included I will be only too happy to keep updated. I am very grateful for your replying and what you said.


And now I must away to bed. Goodnight!


Tommy.

I'm sorry you're struggling right now and taking a break from the forums is a good idea if you need to do so.

I'd like to point out a couple things you've said about Wendi, though.

- Don't forget, she just got abandoned by the woman that saved her from an abusive household and from what could have been a fate much worse if this had not happened. Cut her some slack, she must be so incredibly stressed out right now; trying to manage a new job and caring for a sister she never knew she had until a month ago.

- Violence is never the answer! You may still be a child; but, where I live, you could end up in prison at the rate you're going. The minimum age of criminal responsibility in my state is set at seven, a determined age which I totally support. You hit Wendi now, but who are you going to have when she kicks you out on the streets?

Julie needs a caretaker, so she can't take care of you.

Please, seriously consider your thoughts, words, and actions before you alienate Wendi any further.

Frankly, from what Wendi has told me, Julie would pick her over you in a heartbeat.

You're young and it's ok to make mistakes! But there are limitations and what you're doing can have drastic consequences.

[Sprite-1]

Originally Posted by sauorkan

I'm sorry you're struggling right now and taking a break from the forums is a good idea if you need to do so.

I'd like to point out a couple things you've said about Wendi, though.

- Don't forget, she just got abandoned by the woman that saved her from an abusive household and from what could have been a fate much worse if this had not happened. Cut her some slack, she must be so incredibly stressed out right now; trying to manage a new job and caring for a sister she never knew she had until a month ago.

- Violence is never the answer! You may still be a child; but, where I live, you could end up in prison at the rate you're going. The minimum age of criminal responsibility in my state is set at seven, a determined age which I totally support. You hit Wendi now, but who are you going to have when she kicks you out on the streets?

Julie needs a caretaker, so she can't take care of you.

Please, seriously consider your thoughts, words, and actions before you alienate Wendi any further.

Frankly, from what Wendi has told me, Julie would pick her over you in a heartbeat.

You're young and it's ok to make mistakes! But there are limitations and what you're doing can have drastic consequences.

Julie already has a full time care giver arranged to be with her beginning Saturday when she will be discharged from hospital. This was arranged a few days ago, on the advice of two of the excellent staff mentors who are helping me.


You wrote in a harsh manner, though I understand the point you made. Therefore I have decided to ask my counsellor tomorrow morning for sessions to deal with my dark aggressiveness.



Since being reunited with my twin sisters, I, also, have been very stressed with no thanks to the smoking, drinking and foul mouthed Parisienne model who took my sisters under her wing. Her drinking, her dope habit did not help me one bit. In fact, she caused PTSD in the form of sickening memories of my darkened days. Little wonder I had no compunction but to retaliate after she repeatedly hit me. I make no apology for what I did. Hitting a child, no matter how it is dressed up, is inexcusable as it is despicable.


Nonetheless I hope to seek help for my reactive actions. It may take time, but I will do it. I realise I am but a child to you. One who was feral. One who saw the death of my best girl friend after what caused her to. Die. I still cry for her. As I am now. Still, I will seek help for myself.



For the sake of peace, I apologized to Wendi which she graciously accepted, hugging me. That was the first time I have ever apologized to her. Wendi spoke of "being at the mercy of her 'Maman'", also, so it is not surprising she is feeling awful and her twin having been ill remains weighing heavily on her mind.



I promised to cut Wendi some slack; at least we are talking again. I can see sisterly love and concern in her eyes. The eyes are the lamp of the soul. Eyes never lie.


Goodnight.



Tommy.

[Dawn.]

I'm sorry to hear that you're having a hard time at the moment. If you ever need anything, please feel free to message me.

[Sprite-1]

Originally Posted by Dusk.

I'm sorry to hear that you're having a hard time at the moment. If you ever need anything, please feel free to message me.

I respond well and feel happier and more positive when people are not harsh, but gentle. Not assuming they are correct, but being open to the possibility that my sister Wendi may have, for some inexplicable reason turned unpleasant.

Also be open to the possibility that whatever she may have said when once an active member here, may have retained a sisterly love for me after all.

This morning Wendi greeted me at the breakfast table and apologised, asking my forgiveness for hitting me, and explaining that she, also, intends to get help for herself also.

We tearfully hugged, had a good cry, hugged again. And we held hands as I walked to her place of work with her. At the gate she turned and hugging me again, thanked me. And said "See ya later alligator!" To which I laughingly replied, "In a while crocodile!"

I believe a new day has begun as individually Wendi and I are going to seek help for ourselves. And I'm sharing this because it is important.

Thank you Dusk for your kindness, your gentleness instead of being abrasive, as someone was. I will be sure to knock on your door.



Tommy.

[Rivière]

I'm glad to hear the situation between you and your sister have been resolved. Take all the time you need Tommy. We'll see you again soon.

[hocus pocus]

Originally Posted by Sprite-1

Julie already has a full time care giver arranged to be with her beginning Saturday when she will be discharged from hospital. This was arranged a few days ago, on the advice of two of the excellent staff mentors who are helping me.

You wrote in a harsh manner, though I understand the point you made. Therefore I have decided to ask my counsellor tomorrow morning for sessions to deal with my dark aggressiveness.

Since being reunited with my twin sisters, I, also, have been very stressed with no thanks to the smoking, drinking and foul mouthed Parisienne model who took my sisters under her wing. Her drinking, her dope habit did not help me one bit. In fact, she caused PTSD in the form of sickening memories of my darkened days. Little wonder I had no compunction but to retaliate after she repeatedly hit me. I make no apology for what I did. Hitting a child, no matter how it is dressed up, is inexcusable as it is despicable.


Nonetheless I hope to seek help for my reactive actions. It may take time, but I will do it. I realise I am but a child to you. One who was feral. One who saw the death of my best girl friend after what caused her to. Die. I still cry for her. As I am now. Still, I will seek help for myself.

For the sake of peace, I apologized to Wendi which she graciously accepted, hugging me. That was the first time I have ever apologized to her. Wendi spoke of "being at the mercy of her 'Maman'", also, so it is not surprising she is feeling awful and her twin having been ill remains weighing heavily on her mind.

I promised to cut Wendi some slack; at least we are talking again. I can see sisterly love and concern in her eyes. The eyes are the lamp of the soul. Eyes never lie.

Goodnight.

Tommy.

Hi Tommy!

No one meant to come across as abrasive. The beauty of a place like TeenHelp is that everyone is free to express their thoughts from their own point of view. Everyone here wants to support you in your journey. Keep in mind that it can be easy to misconstrue tone over the internet or any other technology.

With that said, you mentioned needing to take some time away from the site. I am going to close this thread to allow you the ability to do that.

Take care of yourself.