Say something you wish you could say to their face.

To those that I met in the spring and summer of 2005: I hope you are doing well, wherever you might be today.

[Kate*]

At least you admit you could be wrong, and wouldn't disown your kids. But, for the record, admitting you could be wrong, doesn't mean you're any more right. And no one is trying to take your rights away, they simply want for themselves what you have always had.

If you're there tomorrow (and you said you had to be) you can help me, because I can't do it by myself, and you can also figure out why she "can't" switch me to the thing that makes so much more sense.
The only explanation I can come up with is that I'm slow, which I fucking told you so. And if that's the case, why don't you regret giving me the full-time?

[Kate*]

Just so you know, I'm 100% continuing to do that out of spite. If you don't help me when I ask, you don't deserve to have the favor returned, regardless of your getting promoted over me. And yeah, I should probably be the bigger person and let my character outshine yours, but I'm still human, and passive-aggression once in a while is easier. Especially when you have no idea who did it.

[Kate*]

You need to learn how to read a schedule. You kept us late because you said she was opening, but she's not, it's him.

Even with guaranteed hours, I'm STILL the first to get fucked with. What the actual fuck?!

I can't wait for their vacation so you're forced to do your own job in your own store. Because I am THIS close to telling your boss off. He needs to get his shit together so we can have you back before fucking CHRISTMAS. 6-8 weeks has become 6-8 MONTHS and I've HAD IT

[Kate*]

Enough is enough. It's time to acknowledge your limits, have the conversation you don't want to have, and step up for your own team. That's what a good leader does, and it's what you've done from day 1. Step up for me again, or I will! You want me to show you leadership skills? Nothing says that like a difficult conversation with a boss because you see disaster coming, and standing up for yourself (and maybe others, if not yet)

Everything has said stay, and that I absolutely belong there, but we can't work like this, and we can't afford for this to continue. The store won't survive. You have until Christmas, if it's not fixed by then, I'm done. That's being generous. And it WON'T be because I want to leave.

Is there really no place better for you to be doing this? It's very disturbing.

[Kate*]

I guess just because you'll be here for at least 2-3 more years, doesn't mean you'll be in the store a lot during that time. I'll soak up as much time as I can with you. Just promise that before you leave, you'll warn me.

[Kate*]

You constantly want us to trust you, but you tell people what they want to hear, and then do what you want. How can you expect anyone to trust that?!

Come on, I can't be the only one who sees how sketchy and creepy this is.

[Kate*]

On the minute chance that I see you tomorrow, I may as well tell you what I want to. It's not like it'll matter; or get the truth out of you.

If you say so.

[Kate*]

Rude husband and wife customers to each other in front of me:
"Kind of, I don't know what that means."
"I don't know what it means either."

It means it's hard to do, I've only done it once, and considering you've been a total BITCH from the second you walked up here, I'm NOT going to waste my time figuring it out for you!

I hope your problem isn't because they're Black. By the way, they're not Black per se. They're mixed race India and Afro-Carib.

[Kate*]

These are 2-person closes, and we're going to be slammed. If you want to bitch about the job I do, then do it yourselves!

[Soda_Voxel]

I am so uncomfortable with this and I can't bear to tell you because I'm too scared but also because just a few days ago I expressed I was fine and excited with it but now I changed my mind and I'm so uncomfortable and genuinely so upset - you're taking my thing and turning it into your own and into something it's not and I feel sick

[Kate*]

We come to an understanding, or I talk to your boss. You may be doing fine, but every single member of your team is struggling. And if your continued response to that is to dismiss us, claim everything is fine, and continue in the same way, that's a problem. It's time to step up for us. Circumstances have changed, my team needs me, plans have changed; period.

Here's the problem with that though: Despite what you may think, you are NOT in charge (mostly due to this behavior!) Therefore, I DON'T HAVE to justify to you what I do or don't get done, under circumstances you know NOTHING about, and REFUSE to deal with YOURSELF.

[Kate*]

I didn't ask you to, but much appreciate the break from her. I think you've finally realized that, despite continuing to work through things, I just can't work under her until she calms the f*** down.

Well, he's gone, you're wrong about everything else you said, and the only one left throwing tantrums after all these changes is you. I don't think the problem is everybody else. And even if this is a stress response, that doesn't give you the right to take it out on me, or anyone else you now outrank. At least I vent up.

It's frustrating that we haven't been able to meet for the past few weeks. I hope that we're able to have our meeting this week, I'm getting frustrated being here.

I don't like that I could possibly have a new friend, Asexual, who lives close to me but you have children and a partner. Why can't I ever find a uncommitted person around here?

[Kate*]

Most of the time, you are one of my favorite people. Other times, I can't tell if I'm being manipulated and being taken advantage of.

I miss her so much and I hate that she has to focus so much of her time on her partner. I really don't have the lived experience or am able to comprehend fully how challenging this can be for someone that recently had this type of surgery and new acceptance of who they are.

[Kate*]

The only way you could better set me up to fail, would be to require it before promotion. And, even though you keep saying you don't, you absolutely are. And, I was actually in a good place for 2 days. I knew it had to end eventually.

[Kate*]

I give up, either someone else will have to say something to you about it, or you'll have to see for yourself. I wish there was a definite I told you so coming, but I doubt it.

[Kate*]

I can only hope that you'll finally see what I'm talking about and appreciate everything I do. You say it, but I'm not sure you REALLY get it. But, if you don't fully appreciate me now, you might never.

There is NO WAY you could argue that it's fair. It's probably supposed to be, when done right, but that ship sailed long ago. You're going to deal with this; or I'm complaining daily until you do.

[Odyne]

If you could see me now <3

[Kate*]

So, she's allowed to be a bitch according to multiple people, and get promoted, but I can't be promoted and remain sarcastic, which appears to bother no one. Just tell me to get taller and we can move on with life. If I weren't sarcastic, I would 100% be fired for the words you said you WANT to come out of my mouth. Non-sarcastic does NOT mean happy and amazing like you think it does, but if you let me be myself, you'll find that out real quick.

[Odyne]

Thank you for your help

[Kate*]

With the amount of call-offs, I'm half expecting to have you all to myself for the next 2 days. But, I'd reach out to your boss before you have to do another 14-hour day.

[Odyne]

Loook how far I've come

[Kate*]

I'm not going to lie to myself to make your life easier. If it's as bad as I'm expecting, you're going to hear from me.

It was fine because she has seriously calmed down. But, I'm sure you'll just say it's because of me.

[Kate*]

Had you not blindsided me, I could've told you that everything you said worked both ways. If they go through with this, you won't have me to blame when your shifts go to hell. So, have fun. I won't bring it up unless they do, but I could also tell management everything. But again, once I can't be blamed, they'll see that I wasn't wrong.

[Kate*]

I can tell you're REALLY struggling. I hate that for you and wish I could help. Seeing this side of you is relatively new for me, you don't have to tell me anything you don't want to, but don't be afraid to ask for what you need. I guarantee the support is there.

[SabsaJo]

You matter very little in my life in the grand scheme of things.

[Kate*]

I should probably give up on it all and just leave, but part of me can't.

[Proud90sKid]

Hey cousin,

Stop telling my brother who I have a weak relationship with everything that I have confided in you. In particular, you seem to share everything embarrassing that I did/has happened to me. It has gotten quite ridiculous and there is need to "catch up (my brothers) visiting from another state every single negative or embarrassing thing they havent heard about". For example there was no reason to tell my brother that in September I got so drunk at a bar that I had to have my parents pick me up. I feel like it is a betrayal and I am going to stop hanging out with you.

[Kate*]

You can hold and communicate the high standards, without making people walk on eggshells around you.

[Odyne]

Look what you did to me

[Kate*]

Stop making mountains out of molehills, and most of this will go away.

This is going to end with me walking out of a shift. But after over 6 months of trying everything, you've stopped listening and enough is enough.

I have a feeling I'll give up long before any of that happens. Maybe not because I can't do it, but because it'll take too long.

Pick up after yourself.

[Kate*]

The difference is the power dynamic was flipped. What and how she says things carries a lot more weight than however I do it to you.