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Originally Posted by Acheron (Post 476620) Because it's fun. I'm not sure that you're right, anyway. Obviously genuine insults are bad, but teasing always seemed to me like a good way to flirt. It's fun, it makes girls laugh, a witty riposte demonstrates your intelligence and sense of humour, and perhaps most importantly it shows you aren't scared of her. It's a way to be a nice guy without the pathetic, grovelling supplication that whiny "nice guys" default to. Question for the girls of TH: am I right?

In my case, I didn't know he was a jerk until we were well into the relationship. None of our friends spoke up when we first started dating, and he was a decent actor, so I didn't pick up on the "jerkiness" until I was already emotionally invested in the relationship.

Of course, he wasn't what most people would call "hot"... although he was in my eyes. =P

Other theories I can come up with include:
- Girl just wants a fling/casual relationship, so looks are more important and personality doesn't count for as much.
- Girl doesn't feel like she deserves a nice guy, so she goes for whoever will have her (usually the jerks).
- Girl wants to move up in social ranking, so putting up with a jerk seems like a small price to pay.
- Guy isn't actually as big of a jerk as you think he is (although that's unlikely).

For girls: Would you rather date a tough, hard, muscular guy or a sweet, soft, cuddly guy who could still protect you and why?

Originally Posted by Teddy Bear For girls: Would you rather date a tough, hard, muscular guy or a sweet, soft, cuddly guy who could still protect you and why?

A little bit of both. I've dated chubby men, extremely fit men, and men that are somewhere in the middle. Personally, I prefer fit or "average". I also like a man who's not afraid to take charge of a situation, who is pro-active, who can be confrontational when needed, etc. I don't want him to be a raging bull, though. xD Definitely enjoy cuddling and having that sweet, puppy-dog love as well. I never have understood why people feel they have to choose between the two stereotypes of "badass" vs. "nice guy"... why not find someone who can be both?!

Originally Posted by Double X (Post 580787) Okay, here is a question for girls. How long would you wait for a guy that you like, is in a relationship and on his way of getting out of it? He admits he likes you, but has a complicated relationship and it's not easy to break off. How long would you wait for him? Thanks

I'm not entirely sure, as I've always been the one to pursue men... but I'm also thinking about a month. That's a lot of time to think about how he'd want to go about breaking up with his current girlfriend, get his affairs in order, and follow through. If it took him longer than that, I'd start to wonder how serious he was about leaving his current girlfriend. Since I wouldn't want to be played for a fool, and since I could only hold out emotionally for so long, I'd probably start moving on after a month with no tangible results. If I was REALLY interested in the guy, however, and I wasn't interested in ANYONE ELSE, I might wait around for longer.

Sure! I mean, if he was genuinely torn between breaking up with his girlfriend and dating me, and he wasn't just jerking me around/giving me false hope, I could be friends with him afterward. I might need some time to get over him, if I became too emotionally invested in him and the possibility of having a romantic relationship with him... but so long as he was honest with me and I didn't feel like he had ulterior motives, I could get over my feelings and move on with time.

Originally Posted by QuantumModulus (Post 581782) That's just untrue. Making sweeping generalizations is dangerous, and will undoubtedly harm any potential relationship you may have in the future if you keep having those opinions. Most guys do not see girls as just sex objects. If you find it's a common trait among guys you date, then you might want to modify your standards in who you're looking for. I know for a fact that I, as well as any man I've known personally, will say that what you've said is untrue in the most fundamental sense. Question for basically anyone: My girlfriend, with whom I'm in a long distance relationship, admits to being attracted to other guys who have physical features similar to mine...am I right in feeling insecure or at least sad because I'm not satisfying her needs in this way? :?

Originally Posted by Double X (Post 583130) Depends how deep. A nerdy monotone can be cute, but a bombastic tuba is hideous.

Well, girls can have all sorts of reasons for having low self-esteem. If they haven't received a whole lot of love and support from family members and friends over the years, then that could affect them. If they have an untreated mental disorder (ex. depression or anxiety), that could also affect the way they view themselves. For some girls, one little thing can cause them to ruminate for YEARS, whereas for other girls, it takes a large number of things to chip away at their self-esteem.