Questions for the opposite sex

[freelancertex78]

High School.

[Sissa]

Originally Posted by freelancertex78

Guys - say you've had a crush on a girl at your school since pretty much the moment you met her. One day, months later, you end up having a brief romance with her. It lasts two days, but you decide to stay as friends with her because both you and she are about to go to college and there's not much time in school left. How would you feel/react to her once you saw her again in school?

Since it was a mutual agreement, there should be no awkwardness, right? In theory, that is. I would just casually say hi - see where that takes you and how she reacts. Just because you only have a few months left before you go to college it doesn't mean that you can't have fun times together.

[anarchy_07]

Guys:

When you tell a girl that you like her a lot, but you have soo much going on in your life that you can't be in a relationship with her. If you tell her you really want to, but you can't. That you rarely ever try getting involved in a relationship and that it's hard for you to say.

Is it a nice way of saying you're not interested? or could it be the truth?

[Double X]

I said that once and was being honest. He could be saying he's not interested though. I think if he really liked you he might keep in touch and hang out with you a lot though.

[anarchy_07]

He did say he wants to hang and doesn't want to lose me....

thats how you know a guy is being sincere?

[sphynx]

Originally Posted by anarchy_07

Guys:

When you tell a girl that you like her a lot, but you have soo much going on in your life that you can't be in a relationship with her. If you tell her you really want to, but you can't. That you rarely ever try getting involved in a relationship and that it's hard for you to say.

Is it a nice way of saying you're not interested? or could it be the truth?

I'm not a guy, but as someone who's said this before and had it said to her, I would trust what he's telling you. Besides, what purpose is doubting it going to serve, really, other than potentially damaging any opportunity at a relationship you may have in the future. Has he given you any reason not to trust him? Or any reason to feel as though he's not being sincere? If not, honour what he's said, and try not to get too paranoid about it. Sure, there's a chance he's not interested, but there's also the chance he's telling you the truth. And seeing as banking on the first is a huge gamble with the latter, I'd rather try trusting the latter and be proved wrong than never have a chance at it being proved right because I doubted him from the get-go.

xo Claire

[HopelesslySmitten]

Originally Posted by anarchy_07

He did say he wants to hang and doesn't want to lose me....

thats how you know a guy is being sincere?

If he said that, then his previous statement was probably the truth.

[Boy]

Do girls like to get guys fight over someone/something? eg you.
I mean they like to observe how childish they can be or how far would they go for you when they are near you?

For example: You tell the guy that you really have big crush over another guy (not him) and keep on putting that under his nose to get him jealous. However you actually like him but want to see what is he going to do about it?

Or would that be a way to get him make the move?

[B.O.T.E]

Originally Posted by Boy

Do girls like to get guys fight over someone/something? eg you.
I mean they like to observe how childish they can be or how far would they go for you when they are near you?

For example: You tell the guy that you really have big crush over another guy (not him) and keep on putting that under his nose to get him jealous. However you actually like him but want to see what is he going to do about it?

Or would that be a way to get him make the move?

I did this with my girlfriend.

Before we were dating, i told her I liked someone else even though I liked her. We are together now, but it created a huge mess.

So if you like someone, juts tell them, jealousy will only create a problem.

[anarchy_07]

Can two people, who are the total opposite of one another, last in a relationship?

[Boy]

Originally Posted by B.O.T.E

So if you like someone, juts tell them, jealousy will only create a problem.

Just telling didnt work last time why should it now? - If you havent lived it through by acctually doing it then I cant see light in that.

[sphynx]

Originally Posted by Boy

Just telling didnt work last time why should it now? - If you havent lived it through by acctually doing it then I cant see light in that.

Pardon me if I'm misunderstanding something here.

Say I'm the girl and I'm wanting to rub the face of the boy I like in the fact I'm "going after" another guy. The boy I like tried "just telling" me he liked me and that didn't work? Then I would say I'd have to reconsider my feelings for the boy I like. If I really liked the boy, then his up and telling me would dismiss the need to make him jealous.

xo Claire

[Boy]

Originally Posted by sphynx

Pardon me if I'm misunderstanding something here.

Say I'm the girl and I'm wanting to rub the face of the boy I like in the fact I'm "going after" another guy. The boy I like tried "just telling" me he liked me and that didn't work? Then I would say I'd have to reconsider my feelings for the boy I like. If I really liked the boy, then his up and telling me would dismiss the need to make him jealous.

xo Claire

That kinda was reverse situation. After telling I like her she went pretending shes dating with one of my very good friends. How I knew they were pretending was when the kissing part was then her eyes were open and she looked at me. They only kissed when I was around. (another friend told me). Also I knew both of them too well to fall for it. Two weeks later they pretended to split up. After that shes been telling me she likes that guy and then goes she likes another guy. (meybe a test to see if Im intrested still somehow? like would tell Im not when I would start talking about that topic? mostly I just listen these topics, they hurt but I dont talk about them any further with her. Since I feel these stories are "made up" and I also dont want to keep on hurting myself with that topic.)

So currently I see no point of telling her that again. Only way would go for the kiss but shes not around unless I call. If I call I probably wont come up with much of a good idea. However I could be creative and make up something

[Lillywho?]

Originally Posted by anarchy_07

Can two people, who are the total opposite of one another, last in a relationship?

I think so, yes.
I'm noy saying it would be easy, but when has a relationship ever been easy?

If both of them set their minds to it, I believe it can work.

[niente_]

Originally Posted by Lillywho?

I think so, yes.
I'm noy saying it would be easy, but when has a relationship ever been easy?

If both of them set their minds to it, I believe it can work.

Thank God for that ... I guess there is hope then!

[Jake]

Girls:
Can your feelings for someone change, negatively or positively overnight? Like for someone who you aren't in a relationship with for whatever reason? Say a good friend.

Like.. one day you can't get them out of your head and you're telling them you love them, then say.. you see this new person who you are attracted to or something, then you're just like meh about the other person..

Has it happened to you before? Would the "meh" behavior just be related to a bad day or something, or maybe nervousness? Or would it be just loss of interest for whatever reason?

Girls really do confuse me :\

[Algernon]

I've had my moments where that has happened, but usually I snap back to reality.

Why do you have posters of girls hanging up in your bedrooms?

[Care-o-Bear]

Originally Posted by Jake

Girls:
Can your feelings for someone change, negatively or positively overnight? Like for someone who you aren't in a relationship with for whatever reason? Say a good friend.

Like.. one day you can't get them out of your head and you're telling them you love them, then say.. you see this new person who you are attracted to or something, then you're just like meh about the other person..

Has it happened to you before? Would the "meh" behavior just be related to a bad day or something, or maybe nervousness? Or would it be just loss of interest for whatever reason?

Girls really do confuse me :\

I've never had anything that extreme happen. Though I did like this guy for like 1 year 1/2 and all the sudden I just stopped liking him. Maybe not overnight, but pretty quickly. And I didn't like any1 for maybe a few weeks before my Tyler came along

[Jake]

Originally Posted by xHolyValorx

I've had my moments where that has happened, but usually I snap back to reality.

Why do you have posters of girls hanging up in your bedrooms?

I don't, but if i did it would be because i enjoy looking at them

[Boy]

Originally Posted by xHolyValorx

Why do you have posters of girls hanging up in your bedrooms?

If you see poster of girls in boys bedroom then these are probably kind of girls he likes to go after..

I have one behind the door. I like other stuff on it but not the girl .. thats why its behind the door

One on the wall. and yeah, I like these girls because I want to move to same country where theyre at in the future and theyre pretty.

[GroovyDoodle]

Originally Posted by Jake

Girls:
Can your feelings for someone change, negatively or positively overnight? Like for someone who you aren't in a relationship with for whatever reason? Say a good friend.

Like.. one day you can't get them out of your head and you're telling them you love them, then say.. you see this new person who you are attracted to or something, then you're just like meh about the other person..

Has it happened to you before? Would the "meh" behavior just be related to a bad day or something, or maybe nervousness? Or would it be just loss of interest for whatever reason?

Girls really do confuse me :\

Yes, I think this has happened to me before. The whole "meh" behavior usually has something to do with something that person said or did rather than my attraction to another person, though that has affected it before as well. I don't know, my feelings are confusing. It's okay for you to be confused, too. We don't make much sense.

Guys: Say you're dating a girl you're in love with and you tell her she's beautiful, but she's actually unattractive (in her opinion anyways). Are you doing this because you feel the need to raise her self-esteem? Or do you really think she's attractive? Or is this a white lie to save your ass?

[sphynx]

Originally Posted by GroovyDoodle

Guys: Say you're dating a girl you're in love with and you tell her she's beautiful, but she's actually unattractive (in her opinion anyways). Are you doing this because you feel the need to raise her self-esteem? Or do you really think she's attractive? Or is this a white lie to save your ass?

I'll answer as a woman but from a male friend's perspective... and then I'll answer as a woman from my perspective about a man who's insecure in the same way.

If he says you're beautiful, he means you're beautiful. If he's in love with you, he's in love with you, inside and out, and there really shouldn't be any doubt about it. He's not telling you to raise your self-esteem and he's not telling you to "save his ass."

Being said, I pretty much agree with him. A lot of people are insecure about their appearance, and a lot of people worry about whether or not others, especially their significant others, find them attractive, but have you ever been on the other end of things? I have a friend who I happen to find quite handsome, but he is incredibly insecure and generally dismisses my compliments. Most of the time, he doesn't take them for being true or he claims they're from a biased perspective. What he doesn't see is that I wouldn't say it if I didn't think it, especially since he's not even prompting my remarks.

My point is, just because you can't see it, it doesn't mean he can't, either.

xo Claire

[Kryptonite]

Why do you have posters of girls hanging up in your bedrooms?

A few people have actually seen my posters (those of you who have, hush you now).

Just attractive (famous) females.

[sw33t&sourcandii]

why do you {guys}
say you will call, but never do?

[Fraser]

Its easier to say that, than say "I'm not that interested in you.". Guys that do that arn't worth having anyway

[Boy]

Originally Posted by sw33t&sourcandii

why do you {guys}
say you will call, but never do?

Ive only not called once when I said I will. I do regret it but thing is if I see her again (alone) I will tell her why I didnt called.

[Jake]

Originally Posted by sw33t&sourcandii

why do you {guys}
say you will call, but never do?

I'd assume, if they just plain out didn't contact you even though they said they would; its because like someone else said, its easier than telling someone you're not interested in them..

With me, if I'm not interested in someone.. I won't show interest, so it wouldn't get to that point. Usually if i say I'll call and I don't, It would be because i was busy and couldn't. Usually i would apologize though, so i don't know if that's any use to you :\

[HopelesslySmitten]

Originally Posted by GroovyDoodle

Guys: Say you're dating a girl you're in love with and you tell her she's beautiful, but she's actually unattractive (in her opinion anyways). Are you doing this because you feel the need to raise her self-esteem? Or do you really think she's attractive? Or is this a white lie to save your ass?

Personally I think it's a HUGE turn off if a girl constantly puts herself down, or fishes for compliments. If I tell a girl that she's gorgeous or beautiful, it means that she is, period. It bugs the hell out of me when a girl who is obviously better than average looking, puts herself down. Not that I don't mind telling girls that they are pretty, it just gets old if I have to continuously ring a bell over and over.

[just-me]

i have one for all, what do u think is a good place for the first date?

also for guys: your going to the beach with a girl, plans are a walk so u can talk and all then a swim.....wat would this mean?

[Kel]

Originally Posted by drowningangel

Yay. We do have this back. How nice. Although we had PAGES before all this happened.

I have a question for the guys and girls out there:

How important is sex in a relationship to you? If the sex isn't good, would you still stay with that person?

Sex plays zero role.
I plan on remaining abstinent until marriage anyway.

Plus that way I don't think I can actually know whether i had good or bad sex because I will have nothing to compare it to! Ha.

[Care-o-Bear]

Guys:
How often do you actually look at girls boobs when you're talking to them?

Personally, I think you probably do that less than lots of us think you are. But at the same time, I was totally clueless that last year, before I really talked to him, my current bf would sometimes stare at my boobs.

[B.O.T.E]

Originally Posted by Care-o-Bear

Guys:
How often do you actually look at girls boobs when you're talking to them?

Personally, I think you probably do that less than lots of us think you are. But at the same time, I was totally clueless that last year, before I really talked to him, my current bf would sometimes stare at my boobs.

Honestly for me, I almost never do it. I love looking into the eyes when Im talking to a girl because the eyes are way more important and way more of a turn on to me than breasts.
I prefer the "inside" rather than the out.

[Fraser]

Originally Posted by Care-o-Bear

Guys:
How often do you actually look at girls boobs when you're talking to them?

Personally, I think you probably do that less than lots of us think you are. But at the same time, I was totally clueless that last year, before I really talked to him, my current bf would sometimes stare at my boobs.

Once guys learn, they look at the boobs before they are close enough for you to notice and it gets weird.

[HopelesslySmitten]

Originally Posted by Care-o-Bear

Guys:
How often do you actually look at girls boobs when you're talking to them?

Personally, I think you probably do that less than lots of us think you are. But at the same time, I was totally clueless that last year, before I really talked to him, my current bf would sometimes stare at my boobs.

I never look at their chest when I'm having a conversation with a girl. I look in their eyes. It's about respect.

[Jake]

Originally Posted by Care-o-Bear

Guys:
How often do you actually look at girls boobs when you're talking to them?

Personally, I think you probably do that less than lots of us think you are. But at the same time, I was totally clueless that last year, before I really talked to him, my current bf would sometimes stare at my boobs.

I like eye contact, so never. But boobs get their own admiration time

[Crazy_Achava_lovesmusic]

How would you guys react if a girl asked you to a school dance?

[B.O.T.E]

Originally Posted by I_luv_music_achava

How would you guys react if a girl asked you to a school dance?

I would love that!!!! Why does the guy always have to be the one doing the asking?? It would be awesome if the girl would ask!!!

[Crazy_Achava_lovesmusic]

Would you slow dance with someone who you go to the dance with as a friend?

[Hdjdjdjduvieg]

Originally Posted by I_luv_music_achava

Would you slow dance with someone who you go to the dance with as a friend?

Of course. You're there with them, so even if they're only a friend, you can still enjoy their company.

[K_I_N_G]

Originally Posted by I_luv_music_achava

Would you slow dance with someone who you go to the dance with as a friend?

It really depends on the people in question. Some friends may find it awkward, but generally I don't see anyone throwing a fuss about it.