Questions for the opposite sex

[LoveLifeMeaningOver]

What is considered cheating to guys? Why would you cheat? And what do you do if you know that your girlfriend knows that you cheated on her, but she hasn't said anything to you? (Sorry that last one was a bit complicated)

[darkinnocenteyes]

Sometimes good people cheat in a momentary lapse of judgement...
Sometimes people cheat because they feel as if thay aren't getting what they need from their romantic partner, whether it be emotional or physical...
There are a lot of reasons why people make the decision to be unfaithful.
My advice is talk to your girl. Communication is key. Analize how you feel about your girlfriend. Pinpoint why you cheated on her. If you love her and want to continue on with your relationship with her.... you should definately not let this go without talking to her about it. If she knows what you did, she could be very hurt. If it was a one time thing and you made a mistake... then tell her about it. Be completely honest. Apologize. Hold her if she's upset. Taking responsibility for your actions and showing honesty to her will be way better for your relationship in the long run than if you keep it quiet and just forget about it. I know it's hard to admit when you've done something to hurt her, but if she loves you and you show her that you're sorry, then you two should be okay.

[Guardian_Angel]

Originally Posted by LoveLifeMeaningOver

What is considered cheating to guys? Why would you cheat? And what do you do if you know that your girlfriend knows that you cheated on her, but she hasn't said anything to you? (Sorry that last one was a bit complicated)

1. I consider cheating any hidden, undiscussed sexual or affectionate contact pass hugging with (if straight) a member of the opposite sex and (if gay or bi) anyone who is not seen as a friend(of course that's not foolproof because they can can cheat on you with their best friend i suppose, but I wouldn't see it as cheating if they was holding hands with them) ? if that makes sense... lol... I think that covers anything I can think of... oh and cybering aswell... or any other form of "sex talk" using text...

2. I would like to say Oh I would never cheat! But thats not true, I'm ashamed to say that in my weakness I would probably cheat if I'm lonely and a strong temptation would pass me. other than that I wouldn't see a reason to cheat, because if you want someone else and not the person your with it would just hurt everyone inolved to do it serrupticiously.

3. Well, if I was cheating on my gilrfriend, I wouldn't do it secretly, I mean I woudl tell her as soon as I fucked up. I mean to hide it from her would be further insult, and would suggest that you did it calculatingly and maliciously. so I would definitely tell her and let whatever consequences I will have as my own responsibility.


To Girls, If you truly loved your patner, if he was the one, would there be any circumstances where you would allow him to be with other women? (Assuming that he loved you back)

[Alicia]

Originally Posted by ShadeOfSolitude

To s, If you truly loved your patner, if he was the one, would there be any circumstances where you would allow him to be with other women? (Assuming that he loved you back)

No. If he really loved me, he wouldn't want to be with other women.

[Blackwing]

Originally Posted by LoveLifeMeaningOver

What is considered cheating to guys? Why would you cheat? And what do you do if you know that your girlfriend knows that you cheated on her, but she hasn't said anything to you? (Sorry that last one was a bit complicated)

Being with a woman who isnt his wife.

[Gaia]

Originally Posted by ShadeOfSolitude

To Girls, If you truly loved your patner, if he was the one, would there be any circumstances where you would allow him to be with other women? (Assuming that he loved you back)

I do not think so no. My boyfriend and I have discussed this, as I get confused with his answers sometimes, he says he can't cheat, whereas I view it as he shouldn't want to. I know he means the same, its just a different wording. But if you love someone why on earth would you want someone else?
If its involving a threesome, then the relationship has to be an amazingly stable one, and all parties have to be ready and comfortable. Personally, I could never have someone I loved even think about being with someone else.

[devs711]

I have to make a huge generalization for this, but here goes. From my experience, when two guys that are friends get mad at each other they just push each other around a bit physically and thats it. But, when 2 girls that are friends get mad at each other they go behind the other ones back and spread rumors or hold grudges for weeks on end for even the smallest misunderstanding. Why do girls make it all so much "worse" than it really is? I'm sorry if I offended anyone, and I realize that not all girls do this, but a lot seem to, and I can never understand it.

[josie]

Originally Posted by devs711

I have to make a huge generalization for this, but here goes. From my experience, when two guys that are friends get mad at each other they just push each other around a bit physically and thats it. But, when 2 girls that are friends get mad at each other they go behind the other ones back and spread rumors or hold grudges for weeks on end for even the smallest misunderstanding. Why do girls make it all so much "worse" than it really is? I'm sorry if I offended anyone, and I realize that not all girls do this, but a lot seem to, and I can never understand it.

i know where you're coming from; girls can be complete bitches most of the time.

girls don't want to physically fight. usually because, stereotypically speaking here, it's not the 'right thing' to do. you don't see girls fighting these days - even the stereotypical 'catfights' don't really happen between good friends (in fact, i dont think ive ever seen a 'catfight'..). therefore they feel like, in order to get that almost 'thrill' of the physical fight, they should bitch about the person that's annoyed them behind their back. it's a way of releaving themselves from the tension of the grudge their holding (because, actually, it feels a lot better after getting things off your chest rather than keeping it to yourself which can actually lead to depression n' whatnot (scientific genious, me :P)).
some girls bitch about others purely because they're jealous of the other. i know that i've fallen into this trap before without really knowing it... it's a physcological thing, i think.
and really, girls think that by explaining how 'terrible' or 'horrible' someone's been to them, by talking about this person to other people it'll make them hate the person in context too. having people agreeing with you on how bad someone's been acting just feels good but it's not neccessarily the right thing to do.. or even if they've only done the slightest incy wincy thing to annoy them. i'm someone who does blow things completely out of proportion, i must admit, and that's only because i might feel like that persons broken my trust by telling someone a secret that i didn't want anyone to know or even just not commented on a new haircut or whatever :S

but overall some girls are just plain pathetic. but you just have to remember that yes, not all girls are like it! some girls are genuinely nice and won't bitch and moan and bitch some more. if someone's done something to offend them; they will just say something straight out. some girls just need that extra reassurance from other people to agree with them by making the smallest situation ten times worse, especially if they've got a low self-esteem or self-confidence. and that, my dear, is why i think girls make it so much 'worse' than what it really is..

[freelancertex78]

I have to make a huge generalization for this, but here goes. From my experience, when two guys that are friends get mad at each other they just push each other around a bit physically and thats it. But, when 2 girls that are friends get mad at each other they go behind the other ones back and spread rumors or hold grudges for weeks on end for even the smallest misunderstanding. Why do girls make it all so much "worse" than it really is? I'm sorry if I offended anyone, and I realize that not all girls do this, but a lot seem to, and I can never understand it.

I'm a bit removed from that kind of arguing, which is good and all.

I think it's cause girls have more complicated social lives. We read more into situations and understand a lot of emotional implications to words and actions. However, I think that the girls who bitch and moan and are generally speaking freakin obnoxious have some issues to work out.

I'm sorry that I can't add more, I'm finding it hard to find an explanation. I understand it but for some reason I don't know how to put it into words. I hate it when that happens!

Guys - would you feel intimidated by a girl who's smarter than you? How sexy would you say a nerdy/artsy girl is?

[primus diddy]

I would not feel intimidated by a girl who is smarter than me. The girls I end up dating are normally smarter than me, actually.

Sexiness doesn't just depend on her personality, especially just how nerdy or artsy she is. When I think nerdy I think somebody who is really into one or two particular subjects. I think that's kind of sexy. Passion is sexy. Artsy can be sexy too, as long as she's well rounded otherwise. It shows that she's creative, also sexy. Looks play a big role for me as well though, along with a ton of other factors.

Girls: I was sort of asked out on a date today totally out of the blue. I was dumbfounded and didn't respond. My dad was in the car so I waited for him to have one of his usually almost-on-topic responses he has to everything so I could avoid it. A second later I learned it was a joke, she's been with her boyfriend nine years and was trying to get a rile out of my dad and I. Maybe it's just that I'm not attracted to her (and I know I'm not), but my initial reaction even before I even reasoned at all was simply "No." This prompts my question. How would you react if a guy asked you out on a date out of the blue? A guy you've haven't known for five minutes.

[Care-o-Bear]

Originally Posted by primus diddy

How would you react if a guy asked you out on a date out of the blue? A guy you've haven't known for five minutes.

Well, I don't know if other girls feel the same way, but I know that would be a little too fast for me. I wouldn't mind if he told me he was interested in me, but I would feel better if he took a little more time to talk to me first, maybe got my number to text/call me or just talk right then so we could get to know each other a tiny bit more before deciding if it was someone I would want to date. But that's just me, I like things slow.

[Guardian_Angel]

Originally Posted by freelancertex78

I'm a bit removed from that kind of arguing, which is good and all.

I think it's cause girls have more complicated social lives. We read more into situations and understand a lot of emotional implications to words and actions. However, I think that the girls who bitch and moan and are generally speaking freakin obnoxious have some issues to work out.

I'm sorry that I can't add more, I'm finding it hard to find an explanation. I understand it but for some reason I don't know how to put it into words. I hate it when that happens!

Guys - would you feel intimidated by a girl who's smarter than you? How sexy would you say a nerdy/artsy girl is?

I admit I feel intimidated by a girl who is smarter than me, though I would feel unstimulated by a girl who isn't as smart.
I would also feel intimidated by a girl whose older than me, its probably to do with my desire to be the more... dominant force in a relationship. So imagining a woman who was mentally stronger, who could out-think me, and dominate me mentally. i would be terrified :P but I generally like intelligent girls, who hae opinions and you can debate with and stuff

and OMG Nerdy girls are so sexy, they are like my most favourable type, especially because they are like me, omg nerdy girls FTW I love them! ahhh!

[Gaia]

Originally Posted by primus diddy

How would you react if a guy asked you out on a date out of the blue? A guy you've haven't known for five minutes.

Personally, I'd be more than likely to turn them down. I am just one of these girls that isn't attracted to someone unless I know their personality. I'm also very much, I don't date no unspecial people And I wouldn't know this guy well enough to say yes. It could be a waste of time, after a week or so, we discover we don't get on. Why not discover this first? And save the hurting someone.

[primus diddy]

Originally Posted by ghostlyheartbeat

Personally, I'd be more than likely to turn them down. I am just one of these girls that isn't attracted to someone unless I know their personality. I'm also very much, I don't date no unspecial people And I wouldn't know this guy well enough to say yes. It could be a waste of time, after a week or so, we discover we don't get on. Why not discover this first? And save the hurting someone.

Just wanted to mention that going out on a date doesn't mean you're going to be boyfriend and girlfriend. The purpose is to find out if you would like one another.

[liketheangel]

How important is sex in a relationship to you? If the sex isn't good, would you still stay with that person?


i think sex is very important in a relationship as for me it defines the relationship
because i lvoe my b est friend more then anythin ever.. but the mere fact im not sexually attracted to him makes him my friend and not a lover
if that makes sense.

One for guys - Would you date a girl who is taller then you.

im very tall myself so am curious

[Gaia]

Originally Posted by primus diddy

Just wanted to mention that going out on a date doesn't mean you're going to be boyfriend and girlfriend. The purpose is to find out if you would like one another.

Again, what I said still stands, I don't see the point in dating someone if it's not going to turn into anything, call em cynical or mean... I just don't take chances.

[NuHalo]

Originally Posted by ghostlyheartbeat

Again, what I said still stands, I don't see the point in dating someone if it's not going to turn into anything, call em cynical or mean... I just don't take chances.

I'd just say Lou knows what she wants!

So... do you girls really care much for the shy guy?

[freelancertex78]

So... do you girls really care much for the shy guy?

I do, I like the shy guys. They're almost always nice and respectful.

However, I've found that what I need is someone who is more assertive and outgoing. In the case of the shy guys I often find myself wearing the pants in the relationship, which is a role I absolutely hate. I've tried to get a couple of my shy boyfriends to be a bit more decisive and active, but it fails and I'd rather not try to change the guy when I know I can't.

I don't see many shy guys being conversationalists or being able to match my energy, they're often too passive. If there are shy guys that are quite talkative and more assertive once they come out of their shell, please raise your hand to let me know that you exist.

So yes, I like shy guys, but I don't at the same time. haha

[Jake]

Girls:

1. Would you flirt back and be slyly suggestive with a friend, who you may have no actual interest in but have had relations with in the past? Or would you only do it if you had some kind of interest?

2. If you send chainmail to people via text, do you sometimes send it to people in an attempt to get answers to awkward questions rather than asking out straight. Like to see if someone was interested in you or not for example. Or, is it always totally innocent chainmailing?

3. Would you ever get romantically involved with a good friend, say if.. they were your ex, you broke up with them and you are now good friends? Or would you just leave things be and stay friends?

Answers much appreciated.

Originally Posted by LoveLifeMeaningOver

What is considered cheating to guys? Why would you cheat? And what do you do if you know that your girlfriend knows that you cheated on her, but she hasn't said anything to you? (Sorry that last one was a bit complicated)

Having a liking for someone else and acting on it, so generally a meaningful kiss+. In some cases i would consider even holding hands with someone else cheating, depending on the circumstances.

Second question.. I'd assume she would rather not bring it up as she doesn't want to start anything; but i would tell my girlfriend most probably if i had cheated on her. Or it just wouldn't happen because if i felt the need to cheat i wouldn't be with that person.

Originally Posted by freelancertex78

would you feel intimidated by a girl who's smarter than you? How sexy would you say a nerdy/artsy girl is?

No not at all, I'd love to be able to have an intelligent conversation with someone more intelligent than me no matter the sex. So it would be a plus if you were a girl i was interested in
As for "sexy", i use that word to describe physical appearance. Cute/Sexy, complete opposites. So it's to do with who you are as an individual.

EDIT: Apologies for the double post.

[freelancertex78]

Originally Posted by Jake

Girls:

1. Would you flirt back and be slyly suggestive with a friend, who you may have no actual interest in but have had relations with in the past? Or would you only do it if you had some kind of interest?

2. If you send chainmail to people via text, do you sometimes send it to people in an attempt to get answers to awkward questions rather than asking out straight. Like to see if someone was interested in you or not for example. Or, is it always totally innocent chainmailing?

3. Would you ever get romantically involved with a good friend, say if.. they were your ex, you broke up with them and you are now good friends? Or would you just leave things be and stay friends?

Answers much appreciated.

1) I'm not sure. Sometimes I flirt without knowing it. I might be a little more proactive with a person of interest, but I have friendships with guys that we flirt all the time without any kind of interest.

2) I don't send chainmail stuff, it's pretty obnoxious. If someone sends stuff to me, I see it as innocent chainmail.

3) Actually, I have. I was friends with a guy, we dated for a while, broke up (we was a WoW addict), then became friends again. I started hanging out with him more around the beginning of Feb., ended up making out with him, and then we started dating again. However, it still failed, and I'm going back to my If-it-didn't-work-out-the-first-time,-what-makes-you-think-it'll-work-out-a-second-time? policy.

[Rossiu]

Originally Posted by liketheangel

One for guys - Would you date a girl who is taller then you.

im very tall myself so am curious

I dont think I would purely because the girl has to be massive to be taller than me. I'm 6'4 so I can't answer this question personally but I know a lot of my friends actually try to find taller girls rather than short girls but then again there are friends that look only for short girls. Neither has a problem if the girls isnt the height that they would like but they prefer their own tastes.

In short I'd say the overwhelming majority among my friends would be yes they would.

[Gaia]

Originally Posted by Jake

Girls:

1. Would you flirt back and be slyly suggestive with a friend, who you may have no actual interest in but have had relations with in the past? Or would you only do it if you had some kind of interest?

2. If you send chainmail to people via text, do you sometimes send it to people in an attempt to get answers to awkward questions rather than asking out straight. Like to see if someone was interested in you or not for example. Or, is it always totally innocent chainmailing?

3. Would you ever get romantically involved with a good friend, say if.. they were your ex, you broke up with them and you are now good friends? Or would you just leave things be and stay friends?

Answers much appreciated.

1. Probably, but not if I was in a relationship. Although, I don't tend to try to flirt... it just happens
2. I never send chainmails so no xD
3. I have done... kinda, my ex broke up with me, and we carried on fooling around afterwards. I got over him, but he never did with me, and I had to turn him down. I don't know if I could do it with just friends though.

[Anonymous19]

I feel kind of stupid asking this but I'm kind of a shy guy and tend to think too much. But if your in a public place; say a school library or coffee place, or whatever and a guy you've never met before just comes up to you and starts talking with you, and if you two get along well and he asks for your number. Do you think that might be too forward?

[Strider]

If you are getting along and everything, then I would say no, it's not too forward. How else are you supposed to contact them again?
But it really depends on the person and how they would react to being asked. Maybe ask something like 'do you want to hang out again sometime?' instead of directly asking for their number. Get their number if they say sure. That would make it a less forward question.

[Gaia]

Originally Posted by Anonymous19

I feel kind of stupid asking this but I'm kind of a shy guy and tend to think too much. But if your in a public place; say a school library or coffee place, or whatever and a guy you've never met before just comes up to you and starts talking with you, and if you two get along well and he asks for your number. Do you think that might be too forward?

I wouldn't say this was too forward, in fact, I wish more guys were like this!
Obviously, just having a guy talk to me randomly would be a bit weird, but it's nice to have a guy take interest.
Lou.

[ElToroLoco]

Question: this girl i have a crush on, i told her i liked her, she says she likes me back but not ready for a relationship right now. we met online, and finally gonna meet up this weekend.
the thing is. when talking on msn, she always ends the conversations. and sometimes even signs off without sayin goodbye or anything. idk wht she means by that.

[freelancertex78]

Originally Posted by TheHeroOfCanton

Question: this girl i have a crush on, i told her i liked her, she says she likes me back but not ready for a relationship right now. we met online, and finally gonna meet up this weekend.
the thing is. when talking on msn, she always ends the conversations. and sometimes even signs off without sayin goodbye or anything. idk wht she means by that.

I don't think you should be too worried about it, sometimes I'll sign off if I end up doing something else or I just need to get off the internet quick. I don't do it because I don't care or anything, I may not have been thinking at the time.

[Gaia]

Originally Posted by TheHeroOfCanton

Question: this girl i have a crush on, i told her i liked her, she says she likes me back but not ready for a relationship right now. we met online, and finally gonna meet up this weekend.
the thing is. when talking on msn, she always ends the conversations. and sometimes even signs off without sayin goodbye or anything. idk wht she means by that.

I've a habit of doing this... I know, it's not very nice, but sometimes I get so irritated with msn I have to sign off, and quite often I don't say bye.
I do tend to say sorry the next time I see the person. Why not talk to her about it? And find out why she does it. It could be for many reasons, like a failed internet connection, being shouted at to get off the pc etc.etc.

[Double X]

Since no unanswered questions - I will just ask one...

(for both) is there any single isolated instances that your partner could do that you could never reconcile?

[Gaia]

Originally Posted by Double X

Since no unanswered questions - I will just ask one...

(for both) is there any single isolated instances that your partner could do that you could never reconcile?

For me, cheating. I can't get past it. Also, lying, but it would have to be extreme lying, I can cope with white lies up to a point, but as I don't lie much, if at all, I don't believe my partner should.

[freelancertex78]

Originally Posted by Double X

Since no unanswered questions - I will just ask one...

(for both) is there any single isolated instances that your partner could do that you could never reconcile?

Cheating, definitely. That's is my sacred rule one must never break. Regardless of circumstance it is grounds alone to cut off all contact. I don't forgive such extreme lies, loss of self control, and disregard for priorities. Even if I were a part of the problem my partner should at least had the honesty to bring the issue to my attention or leave before they get involved with someone else.

[B.O.T.E]

What is your definition of whipped??

[BlaZinG]

And...I'll ask one too, What signs do a girl really give off that they like you? I've heard of a lot, but rarely are any of them true.

[sphynx]

What is your definition of whipped??

My definition of "whipped" would probably be someone who's continuously bending over backwards for their partner, even in cases where they feel completely uncomfortable or unwilling, without even the slightest form of reciprocation. In other words, someone who does everything for their partner as if it's expected, not because they choose to.

What signs do a girl really give off that they like you?

They tell you when you ask.
I'm not sure I can answer this one, but I can tell you that every girl is different. For example, where one might lock eyes with you when she's interested, another might not give you much eye contact, if any, at all. Best way to figure out someone likes you, man or woman, really, is to ask.

Question: Why do some men get so bothered by her having male friends?

xo Claire

[Sissa]

Originally Posted by Double X

Since no unanswered questions - I will just ask one...

(for both) is there any single isolated instances that your partner could do that you could never reconcile?

Definitely cheating. For me, no excuse makes real sense, no excuse matters. I like myself quite a lot and I wouldn't let a guy treat me like that. Every girl deserves more than a guy who will cheat on her.

My friend recently broke up with her boyfriend because he posted a video of them having sex on the Internet. The video was made without her consent. That's something I wouldn't forgive and I sure as hell couldn't stand the guy near me.

I couldn't stand any type of violence either. If a guy hit me once, he would totally regret it. Same goes for emotional abuse and manipulation.

Originally Posted by ShadeOfSolitude

To Girls, If you truly loved your patner, if he was the one, would there be any circumstances where you would allow him to be with other women? (Assuming that he loved you back)

No there would not be any circumstances where I would allow him to be with onther girl because if he really loved me he wouldnt want to date anybody besides me.

To guys:Why is it that you will tell a girl you like or ask them out and then when she says yes or that she likes yo utoo you laugh at her and say you were just kidding? Does it make you feel good knowing youjust crushed someone?

[HopelesslySmitten]

To guys:Why is it that you will tell a girl you like or ask them out and then when she says yes or that she likes yo utoo you laugh at her and say you were just kidding? Does it make you feel good knowing youjust crushed someone?

This question is VERY loaded for the fact that not EVERY guy does that. Usually assholes do that, but I'll answer anyway.

They're assholes.

[freelancertex78]

Guys - say you've had a crush on a girl at your school since pretty much the moment you met her. One day, months later, you end up having a brief romance with her. It lasts two days, but you decide to stay as friends with her because both you and she are about to go to college and there's not much time in school left. How would you feel/react to her once you saw her again in school?

[HopelesslySmitten]

Originally Posted by freelancertex78

Guys - say you've had a crush on a girl at your school since pretty much the moment you met her. One day, months later, you end up having a brief romance with her. It lasts two days, but you decide to stay as friends with her because both you and she are about to go to college and there's not much time in school left. How would you feel/react to her once you saw her again in school?

By "school" do you mean high school or college?

[Gaia]

Originally Posted by Sissa

I couldn't stand any type of violence either. If a guy hit me once, he would totally regret it. Same goes for emotional abuse and manipulation.

Sissa would hit them back xD

What signs do a girl really give off that they like you? I've heard of a lot, but rarely are any of them true.

Smiling, general teasing. Kissing you is a good sign... but I seem to be the only one that takes initiative and does this
Watch for her blushing, not being able to hold your gaze for too long as she finds it too intense, also, if it seems she's talking to you more than others, then she probably likes you.