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Your personal code

Do you have a personal code, or a type of rule for yourself that you refuse to break?

My brother met a girl online a few weeks ago and already they decided to declare they were in a relationship, just 3 weeks after talking to one another online. She lives in the south of England and he lives in the North. They both met face to face and seem quite happy together. However, my brother admitted to my family that he signed up for a dating site 'for something to do' and wasn't expecting anything from it. Based on the conversation my mum apparently had with him, it comes across like he's with her out of convenience and solely because he was lonely. She seems super into him, whereas he's less so into her.

It reminded me that I will never be that kind of person. I can't say it's good or bad the way my brother behaves. However, I have a personal code where, no matter how lonely or bad I feel, I refuse to be with someone just for the sake of not being alone. Especially if that person is interested in me where as I'm not so much interested in them. Being in a relationship with that person would feel like I'm using them, and that to me is a horrible thing to do. If I want to be in a relationship with them, I prefer to develop a meaningful relationship with them by starting out as friends first, getting to know them, and then if feelings develop, go from there.

It doesn't necessarily have to involve relationships, but what are some of your rules, or codes that you have and refuse to overstep?

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No drinking alcohol during work weeks. And if I work weekends, no alcohol during those either.

I never had issues with drinking, but it's just something that helps me avoid that altogether.

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^ What he said. That's pretty much my only rule generally speaking. Maybe it's a Polish thing? *)

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Originally Posted by Melancholia. (Post 1355920)

^ What he said. That's pretty much my only rule generally speaking. Maybe it's a Polish thing? *)

From the observation of my coworkers, I can absolutely assure you it is NOT a Polish thing. We love our alcohol :P

Guess we're just weirdos like that :P

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My personal code is a strange one. I don't like people knowing my business, especially on social media. In saying that, I don't post a lot of what I do online.

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I think your personal code is amazing. That's the true meaning of a relationship - a good relationship lies in loving companionship and mutual respect, whereby you feel the other person is truly your "other half".

My personal code would be that I always say a prayer of gratitude when I wake up and before I go to bed each day, as well as pray for forgiveness for the mistakes I knowingly/unknowingly committed. It just helps me start and end each day on a clean slate :hehe:

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My Personal Code.

Respect is earnt not given. Family isn't just blood, but friends that are forever. Never forget people who have been in your life, or presently. Whether you loved and lost, or if you hated and regretted, it's all a lesson learnt in time.

Always accept the apology you didn't get, the one you didn't want, especially the one that wouldn't have made you feel better were you given it.

I believe in being honest. As much as possible, though being economical with the truth is not lying. Never, ever, tell a woman she is fat. The last man who insulted me resembled a panda.

A man's or woman's word is their bond. Don't make a promise you can't keep. I never make New Year's resolutions except to remain constant.

It's hard to find my path in life. But I will find it.