Customers at work make me feel worse

[bringmethehorizon♥]

Does anyone else in retail find that customers who moan or cause agrovation make my depression and other mental illness worse. People are so rude and it just makes me want to claw my eyes out in my head I'm like excuses me I'm not very well can you stop taking your frustration out on me please. My colleagues are the same they are just so rude and frustrating sometimes does anyone else find that other people just don't care about what your going through?

Does anyone else work in a retail environment with mental health problems experience the same problems as myself or am I just being silly.

[Green Yoshi]

Hello Justin...... I do think that what you need to do is to rant it out to someone.. I've tried keeping my frustrations to myself and its just resulted in my situation turning for the worse...

Just saying that if you want someone to rant to, I'm here.

[.Brittany.]

Hi Justin,

I'm sorry you're still going through such a tough time with work. Are you able to look into other employment, or consider going into inpatient to see if they can get you on a stable routine to help you cope?

I also am moving this to mental health as I feel it fits better there.

Stay Strong,
Brittany

[The Darkness]

I've never worked in retail but I know plenty of people who do, and I've heard stories of people who do. From what I've heard, they've also had bad experiences with customers and coworkers while being mentally ill. Usually what they do is find different jobs that aren't so emotionally straining or further their education and focus on that. Maybe try to change your job if you can?

[bringmethehorizon♥]

Originally Posted by .Brittany.

Hi Justin,

I'm sorry you're still going through such a tough time with work. Are you able to look into other employment, or consider going into inpatient to see if they can get you on a stable routine to help you cope?

I also am moving this to mental health as I feel it fits better there.

Stay Strong,
Brittany

I posted the thread here because I feel it fit better because I am referring to my depression.

[del677]

I understand that psychologists, counselors, and psychiatrists, all have their own support groups and counselors they go to in order to keep themselves sane. Makes sense since they listen to depressed people all day long whine bitch and complain.

For me I do a lot of self care. I go to several support groups. I have a counselor. And I go to meditation groups, and do meditation at home. I've found meditation helps shift my brain towards a more calm state that can better tollerate turmoil.

I've also learned when people need to vent or tell a story or explain a situtation that bothers them, I don't need to fix their problem, I just need to actively listen to them telling me their problem, and it is the listening itself that is the fix. I know I'm helping them by listening to them, because I've experienced it myself where I once told someone my impossible to fix problem, and they listened, and afterwards I felt better, which didn't make any sense, because nothing was fixed, but I felt better, which I thought was very odd, but I've always remembered that, and I've done it for others ever since.

I also need to be aware of my triggers, what topics are triggers for me, or what things can trigger me, so I can be aware of those, and either stay away from those, or at least be aware of them so if they do happen, I can then take a time out, and have a plan of how to get myself untriggered, get those thoughts out of my head, get myself back to normal.

Yea I'm just one endless work in progress!

[Always *]

I've had several jobs, some retail/customer service/waitressing typed stuff and some not. Honestly, I despised every last retail typed job I've ever had. I was happier when I was unemployed for months and months. I was definitely happy in jobs where I was put dealing with abusive customers and coworkers. I was so miserable when I was working in retail last year. Even though I don't love my current job 100% of the time at least it's not sucking the life out of me. So yeah I can relate.

The best solution would just be to get a less toxic job. For all you know, a different place will attract a less toxic clientele, or maybe you can do something that isn't customer facing.

Honestly, these kinds of jobs can just suck, I think it's why so many of the older people there are so nasty and miserable to deal with. Just try to do things outside of work so your job isn't the main focus in your life and hopefully it help your mood. Also set goals for your mine besides just making ends meet so you can feel better about what you're doing.