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college football games without friends

Long story short, I suck at making friends. I always have, unless I'm trapped with people and have no other choice, like grade school.
Anyways, I have very few close friends around, and football season is coming up. I have season tickets, but the way the system is set up, your seating is based on points from being at previous games. I transferred here and have no points, so my seats suck. Anyway, the other thing about the system is that to be with your friends, you have to join a group. The only friends I have accumulated enough points where they get great seats, and if I joined, it would downgrade their seats. And no, they don't like me enough to downgrade their seats. Um... nobody does, really.
So I'll be sitting by myself, completely alone, at the best thing the world has to offer. That's bittersweet. I don't know what else to do besides eat a marijuana gummy beforehand to relieve my anxiety and make friends while I'm there. I've always had bad social anxiety, and at my old school, I started skipping the games because I had no friends to go with and I hated (HATED) the team. But its not like I can skip these. And this is humiliating, I don't even have anyone to tailgate with before the games. I say humiliating because my brothers are going to come down and realize that wow, I have no real friends. They make friends easily. I haven't made a true friend since the middle of high school.
At least I MIGHT just tailgate with them. Is there anything I should do? And if you say go to the game sober... LOL. I wouldn't go sober even if I had friends.

Re: college football games without friends

How many points do you accumulate per game you attend? Maybe you can attend a few games on your own, and get enough points so that you can sit with the friends you do have without downgrading their seats (or downgrading them a lot)? I'm not sure how long that would take, or how much you'd downgrade them though.

I'm not going to tell you to go to the game sober because whether you do or not is completely up to you, but is there anything else that has helped your social anxiety, or anything you think could help? Now would be the time to try them in addition to what you're already doing. I think going to the game in itself is good considering how difficult coping with social anxiety can be.

I know sometimes it's hard to believe, but what your brothers think about any of this doesn't matter. It doesn't have to do with them and they shouldn't have anything negative to say about it. It's not really their business. The only thing that matters is how you feel or what you think about this, and how you want to work on your social anxiety.

Re: college football games without friends

Hey Robert,

I know that social anxiety can be really hard, but going to one of these games on your own is one step forward to overcoming it! You're in a situation where you're forced to converse, and while that might not feel like the best thing, it can show you that you can socialise and that it's not always as scary as it might seem! I'd probably just advise you to try to stay calm and take deep breaths.

And I agree with Cassidy. All of this has nothing with your brothers. If they want to judge you, let them! They don't know how hard social anxiety can be and have no right to make you feel bad about what you're experiencing.

Hope this helped somewhat and feel free to PM me if you ever need to talk!

Kyra :)