how do you "hang out" with friends outside of school? (yes has to do with relationship with girl)

[totalllyrandomguy]

Ok… i was a decently socially active kid in elementary school up until some very dramatic family stuff happened and i spent most of middle school between fights in my mom and dads house… but that all ended in 8th grade (and i am completely over it so thats not what this is about), but it turns out that those 3 years of being locked in my house did a number on my social life…

Now I am a sophomore in high school and I am doing a lot better. I have basically resurrected my social life in that, no one doesn't like (except for one but he was extremely unreasonable, and seeing how he turned out it inspired me to change my own personality, now I try to be the most friendly and agreeable person to everyone). I have a lot of friends now but I am still struggling on a few things that I practically forgot how to do…

the most important right now is that i literally forgot how to hang out with friends outside of school. In school I have lots of friends, I have friends on the swim team, and in the drama club but I can't seem to make plans to hang out with others outside of school. I almost don't get it… what do teens usually do after school to hang out and do invite/get invited to do such things. I am not sure why but I can't seem to figure out how to hang out with others outside of school…

And the other thing is basically the same problem but with a girl that I like. She is in the drama club as well but i can't talk to her there because she is an actress and I am on tech so we don't see each other much there, and she is in my English class but we don't sit near each other and the walk to her next class is too close to get into real conversation… But she is friends with a lot of my friends and if i can hang out with them more then I will probably end up hanging out with her too…

so basically I have 2 problems that ultimately have the same solution…

and don't get me wrong, I do genuinely want to hang out with my friends, its not just to talk to her, but talking to her is a bonus.

Thanks for reading my ridiculously long thread and giving me advice… LOVE U ALL

[Kyle1006]

You seemed to have solved your own problems in the same thread.
But yes, hang out with your friends more, and get to know her better. Try to get to know her as a friend without a romantic intent. Even start a conversation with her before/after classes, during lunch, or break (if you have one). Get her number or email or facebook. Just keep up conversation with her and get to know her.

[totalllyrandomguy]

I guess this was my fault for posting in the wrong thread, the problem isn't the girl, if i solve the first problem then i am fairly confident that I can handle myself around her as well, my real problem is that I don't know how to hang out with my friends anymore…

I just don't seem to be able to hang out with any of my friends or anything outside of school, that is the real problem that I need help with. (I probably put this in the wrong thread though…)

[DedeTHESeed]

You could always go bowling or go to the movies as friends. Shout her a drink at a local milk bar, and see what happens.

[dragonblood]

Shout everyone out onto a "casual" date. Which might be going to the movies or whatever else people like you go out to.

Pretend you're being nice and ask her to come as well.