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dad and step mom problems

[FONT=""][COLOR=""][SIZE=""][FONT=""][COLOR=""][SIZE=""]For about 4 years now I've been dealing with my dad and his new relationship. I've had my highs and lows with the woman but recently she'd been doing the most when my dad wasn't around. Beating me, calling me names, and it came to a point when i'd just about had it. Just recently she'd been yelling at me around my brothers after all ready telling me I couldn't go with them because the dishes weren't washed even though she'd told me before that we were about to leave (keep in mind I tried to wash the dishes but she'd stopped me and said that she wasn't gonna wait on me and that were about to go, thinking we were about to go i'd quickly gotten ready and she'd stopped me and told me I wasn't going anymore). She'd started hitting me on the head with a bag of frozen chicken she was making for my sibling while telling me to wash the dishes right. I told her stop hitting me and she kept on, so when she'd tried to hit me I grabbed the bag and said stop and she'd began tussling with me and punching me. I refrained from hitting her and my brothers seen it themselves as I had my hands up saying I'm not going to fight her. I was gonna run away when she left to drop my brothers off but I didn't want to leave my little siblings at the house by themselves. She'd told my dad a warped story where I'd apparently swung off of her and we fought. Even though the whole time i was defending myself. So he'd come home and fought me. After I'd told him that I don't want to live with him. For the past week he's been insisting on giving me the bare minimum and treating me like someone he doesn't want here instead of just letting me leave. I cant do this anymore man. But good news is I found a family member that will take me so just pray for me[/size][/color][/font][/size][/color][/font]

Re: dad and step mom problems

I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through all of that. I'd document any marks, bruises, cuts, etc that you get from this woman. Also make a note of when it happened and what was going on at the time. If you are school age you can share this with a teacher or guidance counselor. They will have to report it, but that way you can get away from this woman.

It's wonderful that you found a family member that will take you though and I think you should get in touch with this family member as soon as possible to initiate the process of going to live with them. Explain what is going on and that you want a safe place to stay to get away from everything that has happened. I really hope this family member is able to help and support you through this difficult time.

Re: dad and step mom problems

I'm so sorry that you're enduring abuse from your father's girlfriend. It's not right that he chooses to listen to her instead of you, his own child. Like Dez suggested, I would document every evidence of abuse, from physical to verbal, and present that to a trusted adult, a mental health provider if you have one, or your primary care provider. They are going to report it and your father or his girlfriend can't call you a liar when you have the evidence showing the abuse.

I hope you're able to get away from the situation as soon as possible. I'm so happy you were able to find other relatives to go live with.

Wishing you the best of luck!