Teacher giving everyone bad anxiety

Arion · **Teacher giving everyone bad anxiety -** May 2nd 2017, 12:54 AM

So recently at my school I am starting a drill or dance team. And for the team to start, you need a sponser that has to be a teacher. I found a teacher that agreed but she has made the students feel attacked or not in a safe space. So I found another sponser so that everyone could dance in comfort or at least feel safe to make mistakes and improve. But.... she doesn't want to make the switch unless the other teacher who is currently the sponsor is okay with it. But me and the girls knowing her personality feel like she'll sabatoge this move in some way, and we've been very shaking because we've been thinking about it so much, and I'm personally afraid for the teacher to do something or message and take it out on me even though its a better move for the team...

People have left because of her and we only have one month left to start it...... I'm not sure what to do and I have episodes of .. a large range of emotions when I think about it and I've been worrying ever since, any help?

FallonRose · Live Help Mentor 4/29/2017 Message me if you need anything.

I'm sorry you are feeling uncomfortable with school activities right now! Maybe you should try explaining this to the teacher you are trying to replace the other with. I find it important that you replace the other teacher and it's going to make things a lot more difficult unless you tell her. Hopefully she will understand.

del677 · **Re: Teacher giving everyone bad anxiety -** May 2nd 2017, 09:27 AM

That's a tough one to negotiate.

It might be possible to get an adult on your side who's good at this type of negotiation.

I know a few tricks I've read how a former FBI agent learned to negotiate. He says one trick is to get the other person to come up with your solution.

I'm not sure how that would work in this situation though. You're essentially asking the teacher to come up with the idea of teplacing herself with this new teacher. How is that going to benefit her?

More free time for her? Less responsibility for her?

The other trick I remember is to ask "What..." and "How..." questions. Never ask "Why..." questions, as those ones (Why did you...?) always sound like an accusation.

However, I'm not sure how to apply these negotiating skills to this particular situation.

Maybe if she wins by doing less work?