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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.
Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 9th 2011, 09:48 PM
In elementary school I hung out with this really snobby girl I thought was cool at the time, and she influenced me to bully this one kid who was a little on the heavy side. I felt really bad about it though and I've never done that to anyone since, and I've learned to befriend less bitchy (for lack of a better word) people.
Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 9th 2011, 10:35 PM
Not that I can think of to be honest. I've always been the kind of person who has got on with the majority of people and plus I think I'd feel way too bad knowing that I had upset someone.
When we're lost in the madness, kindness is wisdom.
Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 9th 2011, 10:53 PM
i nevr bullied anyone i was always the one being bullied and i know it dosent feel good so i wuld nevr do it
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Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 10th 2011, 12:02 AM
Well, yes I have bullied kids.
And what I'm about to say is not and excuse for my bullying: Back in sixth grade, kids would always bully me. So I bullied the kids back in 7th/8th grade.
Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 10th 2011, 03:58 AM
I've never bullied someone, though I recall saying one harsh thing back in like eighth grade regarding this one kid's weight (to my friend of course, stupid or not, I wouldn't say it to their face). It was just a small joke but I've never been able to forgive myself. He wasn't the friendliest person (he had no social skills so he tended to be really obnoxious when you tried to be nice), but I still can't forgive myself for letting myself do that to someone who must've heard it far too much.
"What do we live for, if not to make life less difficult for each other?"
-George Eliot
"Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I'm going to be happy in it."
-Groucho Marx
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Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 10th 2011, 04:22 AM
I ask because this came up in a conversation with my friends, they claim that atleast everyone has bullied someone in their lives... I don't know if it true or not so I'm asking.
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Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 10th 2011, 04:49 AM
The bullying I did was somewhat ironic because as I was bullying someone else, whether it be because other kids did it (usually that was the reason) or I had a person dislike, usually I was also being bullied. So I was a bully and being bullied at the same time. That was during elementary school so the bullying I did often did not last long and at later grades, I saw some other kids bullying this one fellow whom I also bullied (since other kids did the same). I think I was watching a movie or show the night before and I was recalling that movie and this fellow, then I realized how much I disliked being bullied. I thought if I disliked being bullied, then that fellow must dislike it even more. In the end, I stopped.
Around grade 8/9, I used more of a manipulation tactic on some people which I guess could qualify as bullying. Reason was although I had high marks on my own, they weren't the best and well, I wanted higher so I tried to manipulate those kids who got the higher marks.
During high-school, I manipulated again for the same reason but I did less of it because I had a strong dislike to another student, who also disliked me. He had about 4-7 friends who assisted with him in bullying particular people. The way he behaved in this is mostly what made me dislike him so much so I stood up for those people. As a result, he attempted to do his worst because not only was he not fond of me but I also stood up for those people. As he tried to bully me, I did the same and at first it was about 6-1 then it dwindled down until it was 2-1 then 1-1 because his friends became my friends, somewhat through manipulating them but also from discovering there was more to them than I thought and vice-verca. That was the main bullying during high-school.
The way this kid worked is he would get his friends to do the "dirty work" then he'd come in but only if he was behind his wall of friends. As it became 1-1, he bullied me but whenever I'd begin with him, he'd try to leave. He did take some swings at me but at the time I was doing some martial arts and knew enough self-defense. After he did those swings and failed, the bullying between us intensified until he got more submissive and I got more dominant.
Looking back, I do feel like I degraded myself from the senseless bullying but the manipulation I always ended so it was brief.
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Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 10th 2011, 06:07 PM
no not really, i was always the one getting bullied, i occasionly tease my sister ect but most siblings do that, so i dont think i have bullied anyone , i know how it feels to be bullied.
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Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 10th 2011, 11:56 PM
A lot of things can be considered bullying, even just making rude remarks to a friend when in a verbal fight. So I think that most everyone bullies at least once in their lives, whether they ment to or not.
Sadly I have made mistakes and said somethings that I shouldn't have, so honestly yes, I believe I have bullied someone before. </3
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Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 11th 2011, 08:04 AM
Yeah. I've bullied. I ruined someone's life, but it went way farther than I had originally planned. It was awful.
But I've also been bullied. That thing with him was the only time that I can clearly say that I was intentionally bullying. I wouldn't consider myself a bully in the traditional sense--i.e. picking on people just for the fun of it.
Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 11th 2011, 12:38 PM
I was bullied in middle school and 7th grade. When I got to 8th grade I started wearing make up and fitting in with other people so people stopped bullying me.
So when the people that used to bully me invited me into their group i sadly joined them and bullied other people, but now I'm in 9th grade and I've apologized to the people I bullied in the past and get along with everyone, from every group, no matter how pretty or ugly. I haven't bullied anyone in a long time (:
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Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 12th 2011, 05:08 PM
Sadly, yes I have bullied someone although I never said anything to her it was all my friends idea I was pretty much forced into it because this friend was very controlling and saying no to her was never an option this girl is very smart and always rubbed it in my face and I was never able to get away from her until 7th grade and my friend ended up blaming me saying it was my idea to bully and pick on this girl when it was actually all her idea to pick on someone we used to be friends with, now the only bullying we did was talk about her behind her back we never started any rumors or anything like that we just sat there saying things to each other. I am not proud of what I did at all, I am glad however that we never said anything to her or really did anything serious, although this girl said that we did even getting the friend whose idea this whole thing was a detention and me a warning when all we were doing was ignoring her, and we were told to say 100 feet away from her, honestly we never picked on this girl face to face, it was only between me and my so called friend. This girl who we secretly picked on always acted as though she was better then us, and when we were all friends, (lets say the girl who started this whole thing is named Nancy and the girl we secretly picked on is Georgia. Georgia, Nancy and I used to all be friends, and when I told Nancy and Georgia about the mayor of the city of Tacoma going to declare may, Neurofibromatosis(Google it to see what it is, I have this disorder or you can go to www.ctf.org) awareness month and Georgia looked so angry and disappointed because her birthday is in may, now more then once Nancy would bully me and I would end up crying, it was so bad that a few times I actually had to miss girl scout meetings. All in all Nancy was a very bad influence on me, even though Nancy’s mom insisted that I was a bad influence on her daughter saying she didn’t want me around Nancy because of all my health problems. in simple terms all three of us me, Georgia and Nancy are all guilty of bullying each other, I regret it to this day still but I have made my peace and have not said a word to either of them for seven years.
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Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 12th 2011, 05:31 PM
Never consciously, so I was about to click no on this, when I thought about it. In Primary School I was very insecure and was ready to do or say anything that let me blend in with the other kids. I also never really understood when I was younger that guys can actually be just as insecure as girls; I presumed they were as tough as the front they put on. So although I wouldn't have gone out of my way to be mean to someone, I think I did treat a couple of the guys in my class a little more harshly than I should. I still know most of them now though and we all get on very well, and especially because later on I grew up and started treating people a lot better, so I hope they can forget about it all. I apologised to a couple of them a few years later as well.
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Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 12th 2011, 08:34 PM
I've maybe said something mean to people at times, but never bullied. I'm sure there have been times in elementary school where I have that I don't quite recall exactly. I've been bullied more often than not through elementary school and a bit through high school and it made me a mess.
Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 13th 2011, 02:58 AM
Yes, I have. It wasn't repetitive or anything, but I shouldn't have said it all. People call me fat and stuff at school quite frequently so I know how it feels. A girl I go to school with... Well. She's really arrogant about stuff she's not so well at. She brags and says how much I suck at stuff so one time I said she sounded like shit... I felt horrible after saying it and I apologized. She never really forgave me for it. She now resents me and makes more fun of me (we're in a lot of EC's together).
I know I sound like a horrible person, but I'm really not. I quite frequently stick up for various people who get bullied in my classes. I don't consider myself a bully.
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Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 14th 2011, 05:22 AM
No I haven't, I know what it feels like to be bullied and harrassed and there is no way that I would ever want to cause someone else that kinda pain, I dont think i would be able to forgive myself if i ever treated someone the way i have been treated.....
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Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 14th 2011, 05:02 PM
I’m ashamed because I did knowingly. Back when I was in elementary school I was the smallest kid but I’d always take on anyone who wanted to go. I soon found out the hard way that it didn’t work like that in high school my brother pushed me around so I did it to others despite my size then.
Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 16th 2011, 07:52 PM
In being 100% honest, I voted yes. I know I have. Heck, sometimes I still do. bullying, in my understanding, is the intentional belittling of someone. When I was little, I did it because I was and it was a learned behavior from other bullies. As I've gotten older, it's something I've done as a defense mechanism when I don't feel good about myself.
I'm ashamed of it, but I work on it every day.
I also believe that everyone has been a bully at some point. Whether active or passive, it happens. It's hard to deny it. You can hate that part of yourself, but it is still part of you.
It's okay, too.
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i am, i am, i am who i am...i am who i am.
there are true things inside of me;
i have been afraid to see.
Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 16th 2011, 08:11 PM
I really can't recall bullying someone. I was never the popular one, but not mixing with a group and being myself got me through most of my schoolyears.
Things changed when I was 15 and I got the opportunity to be a student mentor to the first years'. I got completely anti-bullying and made myself a person to talk to, someone they could feel comfortable with and share problems with, in exchange for advice.
Every time I get to help someone, it drives me to help more. It feels great to know that you made someone see the light at the end of the tunnel.
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Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 19th 2011, 06:56 AM
I remember I, well you can say, bullied my one friend. (Does that count?)
She annoyed the FUCK out of me.
And then, I wasn't ok, I was always pissed off and stuff.
But I'd curse at her, I'd bring her down.
It escalated to when I would hit her or smack her.
And yet, she still stayed with me.
She was like my rag doll; she'd take it and she'd do nothing about it.
I feel bad, but my friends tell me she deserved it for making me pissed when I was already pissed which was not good for me.
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THERE IS NO SENTRY BECAUSE NONE DARE APPROACH
IT HAS NEVER BEEN AND IT IS ALL THAT EVER WAS
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YOU DO NOT FIND YOURSELF THERE IS NO CENTER AND THERE IS NO YOU THERE IS ONLY MADNESS
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Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 21st 2011, 05:56 AM
I haven't really bullied, I mean I was bullied a lot whem I was younger, so I am a jerk to the guys who bullied me, but I don't go seeking them to do that, I just reply rudely. I am rather manipulative though.
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Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 21st 2011, 08:25 PM
I have called kids a few names. I don't know whether it's called as bullying.
I don't normally call people... only if they've hurt me or been mean to others.
Re: Have you ever bullied someone? -
February 21st 2011, 11:42 PM
Depends how you define bullying. I mostly stay on the defensive, wait for people to strike then on the spot reply back with whatever's suitable. If it's verbal abuse, I reply with verbal abuse, if it's physical I reply equally. It would happen in school... rarely does anymore.
But once (in school) I was provoked by this guy, and I just went all out on him. He made a laughing stock out of me, framed me so I got a detention, which was followed up with other punishments since I was already in trouble for my controversial way of dealing with those assholes, but I don't feel guilty since the teachers did fuckall about it. If teachers wouldn't do shit, I'd get it done myself. So yea... I broke into his locker, threw his fucking clothes in the shower and even confronted him head on a few times, and many other things. But I was pissed and mad every time I saw him. He dropped out at 16. And I hope he gets to be one of those hobos gettin payed to scrape chewing gum and dogshit of the pavements on his knees with bleeding nails.
I really created the impression in school that I was a troublemaker. I rarely made any trouble, just amplified it. And now people I know generaly think I've calmed down. I haven't, I don't think so. Not really. Maybe a little more self-restraint, but the main reason is at the age of 20 you get fewer assholes interfering with you, plus I've just learned to stay away from them, but not at the expense of my agenda. If I feel like going to the shop 10pm and there are a bunch of fuckwits loitering about looking for trouble, I'll go to the damn shop, with a crowbar tucked if necessary.
Yea I'm crazy. But I use the bullying as an excuse for my shit attitude and at least it lets me get some sleep.
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Last edited by NonIndigenous; February 21st 2011 at 11:50 PM.