Female Advice Preferred: Bullied

[*MusicIsMyLife*]

I am being bullied by my friends. They keep on pushing me around and calling me really mean names. Like they say that I am stupid, a loser, ugly and a lone. They also said that no one would ever be my friend. They are getting everyone to be there friends so now I have no one. I don't know why they are doing this to me. They think it's funny. I have talked to them about it but they don't seem to care. The names they call me are really hurtful.

[Pour the Teapot]

just ignore them, they are just being total immature jerks, and you better than them. just hold you head high and you can make it through this. besides, you are not alone. there are tons of people here on teenhelp just dying to be your friend! especially me. feel free to PM me anytime. hope things get better.

[BullyPreventionScheme]

This happened to me in year 7, just starting out you see.
So i just left them it didn't take me long to find someone i could call a friend.
It started with: "are you a pokemon maniac?" he said yes, and then suddenly we were talking about shiny magicarps. He introduced me to a big group of really awsome unique people! And now i know i'm with real friends.
All you have to do is have confidence and look. I'm sure you'll find someone in your school you can call your friend.

Besides if they're friend with everyone in your school... thats an insane number of people. Trust me There HAS to be someone who isn't her friend!

Confidence can't fail you
-BPS

[Lightning]

Ignore them and just never speak to them again. If they are always around you tell someone you can trust to do something.

[Storyteller.]

Those are definitely not people you would want to be around, and they don't sound like very good friends.

The best thing you can do is to find somebody else to be friends with. Even if it feels like everybody is on their side and not yours, that's not the case. You just have to keep trying to make friends until you find the right people for you.

You deserve to be happy, and you deserve better than your 'friends'.

Take care.
xx

[Jacksonian]

Agreed. Forgive me for posting as I am not a girl but I just could not not post. These are no friends of yours, if they were they would not be doing this. Leave them be and just go your way and enjoy life. Your life is too precious, just too precious.

[Kitty.]

Ignore those people. Drop them as friends. Friends should be kind and respectful toward one another. I suggest finding a new group of friends. Keep your spirits up and don't give up dear!!!

[Guile]

The same thing happened to my sister, you should find some new friends, and even if it may seem like everyone is on their side, I am sure there is someone who is not, don't give up!

[fuzzycosmicears]

These definitely are not your friends

real friends would not hurt you emotionally like that


Any questions just PM me

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

I had this happen to me in various years of high-school. The ignoring method does work but I also used another method. For example, when I was teased and told I was a loner then laughed at, I laughed right back at them saying along the lines of "You're right, I am a loner but the fact that you're insulting me makes you a lot lower and more pathetic than I am. So continue and let others see how the only way to boost your miniscule ego is to take down the weakest, pretty pathetic shrimp in the sea". May consider different wording but the same idea is there. It's also a way where if they continue it or get more severe, which is a possibility with this method, if done at school, other students or teachers may come and help.

Of course this can lead to physical confrontations but I managed to have very, very few of them. They're clearly not your friends, so there's no reason you should treat or consider them to be your friends. I have no clue what could have started their silly verbal and physical attacks on you but it could have been something you said or did to them, or simply them gossiping about you and eventually booting you out of their social circle you were once in.

i'm sorry if my advice doesn't help, but i say, leave them. find friends who wont do that, find friends that help you shine. i have had "friends" like that before, i almost died. i hate them, and ur "friends" dont sound as if they really care.

[The Darkness]

I remember this happening when I was little.
A wee little girl, k-6th grade, it happened.
I dumped them for other friends who actually were nice.
If your friends bully you, they're not your friends.
If there's no one you can go to, go tell someone. ('ugh, you the tattle-tale!' 'shut up!')
If that doesn't work, then tell your parents.
If that doesn't work, hell if that doesn't work, I swear I will go over there and MAKE them care!
Those mother fuckers shouldn't be laughing at no one! No One!

[Alicia.C]

Those are not your friends hun. Friends are those that hear the song in your heart when you have no words to say. The ones that know something is bothering you just by looking at you, and they want to help. Please dont hang out with those people, they are dragging you down. I understand that ignoring them is the best way, but I also understand from personal experience, that its so hard to ignore it because it does emotionally hurt. Remember that you dont want to be the type of person they have become. Names are just that, names. No point in calling them names back, but be thankful you're the smart girl who is both pretty on the inside as well as the outside. Those so called friends of yours may be pretty on the outside, but they are ugly on the inside. Dont let them change who you are. You are an amazing young lady, and Im sure you wont have any trouble making new friends if you give yourself the opportunity!

[lost_soul]

In that case, these people are not your friends. No true friend would hurt you like that.
Find a new group of friends, you deserve to be treated better than that.
Good luck

[ReyZ]

Its hard to ignore people and harsh words thats a given. Thats when you say to them "If I'm such a loser why the Hell are you entertained so much by me?" "You must love me If you care about picking on me so much." "The way I see it you guys are parisites that need to feed off of someone because your jelous. If your not jelous prove it and leave me alone."
If they reply "Because I'ts fun duh." or something along those Line. Then say "Your a was of skin and Im glad to get rid of you."

I might be a bit harsh but don't let people feed off of you hold your head high and say to yourself your better than them because IT IS TRUE!!! As soon as you get shy and back away sadly or hurt they feed on that. You need to hold yourself together calmly tell them to stop breathing your air and find some new people. True friends dont do that only *ss tards do!

Hope i've helped.
If you want more help Ill gladly assist you.

Honestly You seem like a good person and the good ones always get a crap end of the stick!