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Complete loneliness; no one to turn to -
January 1st 2025, 09:50 PM
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Hello everyone, despite being a new member of this forum I'm afraid this is one of those Manuscript-style texts, So I'll go straight to the point I'll elaborate as you may already understood the whole point from the title, I was hoping that with this thread I would get some advice from someone that would have already navigated this situation/is still navigating.
By loneliness, I do not mean the absence of romantic relationships (I am not interested in them at all) but no one to turn to completely, to send the pics of my cat and its weird poses, or to share the short novellas i write or even a laugh. Everyone in my family is detached and share different interests like my father, my mother or even my sister (which has moved away).
All my friends either steered away or became toxic eventually revealing themselves to be bitter and sooner or later double-dealers. Eventually I had to break up with my ex gf as she turned out to be extremely possessive and abusive; and my last friends would leave me and the nail to the coffin would be when my reputation would be ruined, again, by my ex which would turn all of her friends (even male friends) against me.
Now, I've been Lonely my whole life, but I've always been drawn to my interests and hobbies despite having a geeky/nerdy nature, I wouldn't define myself as an uninteresting person. Rather, I think the problem resides in the fact that I lack social skills and I live in a rural location filled with animals and elders, In which I have little to share with, the second reason I am writing this thread is that I've never felt the need to share a word with someone else up until now.
Hence I am grateful to whoever replies to my post, thanks.
Re: Complete loneliness; no one to turn to -
January 2nd 2025, 12:02 PM
Don't worry. As I read, why you don't try something else? I mean, what you considering funny it's not funny for the others. Listen their conversation and elaborate. If you can "touch" their interests or what they're seeking for, you will be at the center of their attention. Won't be easy at start, but I'm sure you will do it.
Re: Complete loneliness; no one to turn to -
January 2nd 2025, 01:53 PM
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Originally Posted by Astro04
Don't worry. As I read, why you don't try something else? I mean, what you considering funny it's not funny for the others. Listen their conversation and elaborate. If you can "touch" their interests or what they're seeking for, you will be at the center of their attention. Won't be easy at start, but I'm sure you will do it.
Thanks for the reply, I'm afraid that's going to be harder than you think, even if I tried multiple times and still trying to this day. Unfortunately most conversation I hear everyday hold little to no interest to me, I guess It's for my "unpopular" topics and hobbies I am interested in, But I will definetly keep this in mind!