Younger Sister Advice

[Ericboy86]

I’m Eric and I’m 16 years old. I have a younger sister who is 4 years old and also have three brothers who are (16, my twin), 19 and 21.

My sister told me and my brother Jack(my twin) that she didn’t think Josh(19 year old brother) liked her.

Long story short Josh offered to watch his girlfriends little brothers who one day the past week and missed her dance recital. Of course this is not the case, but how do you explain this to a 4 year old? My parents did sit her down and explain it, but I’d like to try to do something for her to make her feel better

[Arabesque- golfing girl.]

Hello Eric,

Welcome to TeenHelp! It is wonderful that you have joined us. I'm sorry you are having a hard time with this. When we are trying to tell our younger siblings about something it can be hard because of how old they are and they don't fully understand what has happened. You can try to sit her down and say how your brother wouldn't do anything to hurt her, that he loves her and will try to make her next dance recital that is coming up. It is best to try to keep what you are saying short because of how old they are. Also, you can go to your older brother and ask him if he would do his best to make her next dance recital because he really hurt her and see what he says back. I hope that your sister will be okay soon and he is able to make her next one that comes up.

[Ericboy86]

Originally Posted by Golfing girl

Hello Eric,

Welcome to TeenHelp! It is wonderful that you have joined us. I'm sorry you are having a hard time with this. When we are trying to tell our younger siblings about something it can be hard because of how old they are and they don't fully understand what has happened. You can try to sit her down and say how your brother wouldn't do anything to hurt her, that he loves her and will try to make her next dance recital that is coming up. It is best to try to keep what you are saying short because of how old they are. Also, you can go to your older brother and ask him if he would do his best to make her next dance recital because he really hurt her and see what he says back. I hope that your sister will be okay soon and he is able to make her next one that comes up.

Thanks for the Welcome. We did sit her down and explained it wasn’t the case. At least my parents did.

Kyle my oldest brother took her to his house last night. With myself and Jack. Clearly I think it’s paying off this morning. She’s watching Disney+ and asking when Josh is coming today

I think the whole thing with Josh was just normal jealousy. She usually isn’t, but we all had our one time.

That's how four year olds are naturally. They are too young to really understand why an older sibling might not do something they promised; but are old enough to experience that insecurity. I'm glad you and your parents were able to sit down with her and explain it in a way she understood. It sounds like she's beginning to forget about it and move on, just how it normally is with kids that age.

Feel free to reach out for support and advice again if needed!

[Ericboy86]

Originally Posted by Ethereal.

That's how four year olds are naturally. They are too young to really understand why an older sibling might not do something they promised; but are old enough to experience that insecurity. I'm glad you and your parents were able to sit down with her and explain it in a way she understood. It sounds like she's beginning to forget about it and move on, just how it normally is with kids that age.

Feel free to reach out for support and advice again if needed!

Yeah, completely moving on. Josh arrived and He’s play wrestling with Erin and Jack, though I think him and Jack are actually wrestling

[Everglow.]

Hey Eric

I'm glad that your sister is doing okay. I think it's totally normal for children of that age to not be aware or conscious of the fact that other people have things going on, but they do tend to move on pretty quickly. It's lovely that you care about how she's reacting to this and I am sure that the love and care you have for her will mean she feels very secure most other times, which is the main thing here. All you can really do is explain these things to her. With time she will begin to understand more that people will come back and that they still care.

Oh, and welcome to TH Glad to see you around!

[Ericboy86]

Originally Posted by Everglow.

Hey Eric

I'm glad that your sister is doing okay. I think it's totally normal for children of that age to not be aware or conscious of the fact that other people have things going on, but they do tend to move on pretty quickly. It's lovely that you care about how she's reacting to this and I am sure that the love and care you have for her will mean she feels very secure most other times, which is the main thing here. All you can really do is explain these things to her. With time she will begin to understand more that people will come back and that they still care.

Oh, and welcome to TH Glad to see you around!

Thanks, yeah she moved on completely I think it’s because she’s spoiled in my Family, no joke youngest of 4 brothers by 12 years. I mean we try to teach her the right things, but she still is spoiled.

Yesterday Jackson(we call him Jack) and Josh took her to Lunch. Needless to say she was happy.