Parents won't stop Fighting

[FONT=""][COLOR=""][SIZE=""]I'm 17 my parents have fought my entire life. Last month was the worst of what I've seen and it got physical and my mom had a restraining order against him. I am on vacation with my mom visiting my future college and my mom has been on her phone literally the whole time and o thought it was just business (they own a business together) and she has been arguing over text with my das the whole time. When I mentioned that I've been sitting by myself while she's been ignoring me she just brings up how much stuff she has bought me. I don't mean to be ungrateful but literally we came in this vacation to get away from everything and she just brought it along with us.[/size][/color][/font]

[Kate*]

I'm sorry to hear that your parents have fought so much and it even follows on a trip that was supposed to be about you. You're not being ungrateful or unappreciative of what your mom has given you. The problem is that material things don't make up for time that should've been spent with you.

Unfortunately, you can't do much about it because you can't control what your parents do. Going to college will give you a way out and a place to go soon.

[Honeybadger40]

Hi there,

I'm sorry to hear your parents are fighting so much. As the above poster said you are not being ungrateful. You obviously appreciate the money she has spent to give you whatever it is you have but you also need and deserve love, time and consideration from your parents; we all do.

You cannot control your parents actions, but I think it's important to keep talking with your Mom about how this is affecting you. When you talk about it, does it tend to happen when you're in the middle of an argument? It's only thought, but if it does tend to only really come up between the two of you at difficult times when it's hard to have a constructive conversation, try to find a quiet moment when you two are alone and tell her how much this bothers you. Sadly, you cannot control the situation but keep making your feelings known and I hope for you that they will listen.

You're going to college soon, so at least you will then have some space from the situation. For now though, let your feelings about it out in a constructive way. Try to avoid yelling or hiding away from it all. Perhaps you could try writing a journal to help you release some of your feelings about it. I know my head always feels so much clearer when I've written my feelings down on paper. You can also tear the paper up and throw it away once you're done to give you a sense of distance and make you feel as though you're removing the feeling from your mind and body. You could try some creative expression, like writing songs or poems. If all else fails there's always the good old 'punch a pillow' method. Just be careful not to hurt yourself or damage anything.

Good luck

Hey there,

Sometimes parents equate providing financially and materialistic things for their kids as good enough. it really sucks that some parents feel this way because children also need emotional support.

It is possible that because she is dealing with her relationship issues that she snapped and said something hurtful. It might be a good idea to sit down with her during a time when she is less stressed and let her know you appreciate all that she dies fir you but would also like to spend some tine with her where she isn't on the phone and you miss her and enjoy time with her.

Best regards.