Parents won't let me hangout with friend

[connorweie]

I'm 16 years old and in April of 2015 I got caught drinking with some of my friends (M, R, and C), my parents won't let me have anything to do with one of them (M) anymore, even though I can freely hangout with the other one (C). I have been to (M)s house countless times since the incident behind my parents backs but I don't know how I can convince them to either remove the tracking app from my phone or let me hangout with (M). Also another thing that doesn't make sense is I sold a bottle of bourbon to me best friend in 9th grade and they still let me hangout with him. Any advice on how I can get the ban on (M) lifted.

[Moxie.]

Hey there,

While you may not be able to get the ban on M lifted, it's definitely something that you can talk to your parents about. Sit down with them and acknowledge the fact that you made a mistake by drinking underage and that you understand that they're upset and/or disappointed with your choices. Consider asking them what you can do to start earning their trust back and follow through with any promises that you make. By making an effort to make things right with them, you may be able to eventually prove to them that you no longer need things like tracking apps on your phone.

During the conversation, you can even bring up the fact that you're not sure why M is the only friend of yours that they're no longer okay with you hanging out with. Based on their answer, perhaps you can also talk about making a compromise with them about hanging out with M. For example, you can see if they would be willing to allow the two of you to spend time together in a public place and/or with some sort of supervision. While it might not be the ideal situation, it's a starting point and might be the best that you can hope for for the time being.

Take care,
Sammi