Porn Addiction...

[mrabused]

Hey everyone, so I kinda think I have an addiction of watching porn a bit too much, now that its summer holidays, I tend to watch more often.. And I kinda think I should probably stop it, I've made an attempt but I always end up in the same place. I feel like its going to affect me in the real world sooner or later, I've become so anxious while going around society and stuff like that.. yeah.
So how do I break free from this addiction...?

[Celyn]

I think it's fairly common to find yourself watching porn more during free time, as opposed to being busy with school. But if you feel that you avoid doing things just to watch porn, or feel that you don't seem to do much else besides watch porn, then it is worth trying to cut down.

A good place to start is adding up how much time you spend watching porn, either in a day or a week, and then slowly reduce the amount of time e.g. if you watch porn three times a day, reduce that to twice a day.

It's also important that you find something else to focus on when you are trying to cut down on watching porn. What else can you do that will help to distract you? It could be anything from school work and chores to reading, playing games, watching a movie, or even going for a walk. If it's a healthy distraction, then it may help you to lessen the urge of porn watching.

[del677]

Well you're 13 so I think it's normal.

But the anxiety part I see as a separate problem, and possibly a much more important problem to focus on. If I understand correctly this is social anxiety, as in anxiety about interacting with other people, especially girls, which I'd love to give you tips on, except I'm not very good at it myself, so I'm not a very good role model.

Anyway it's normal as a teen male to have an ungodly endless desire to think about sex all the time. That's just the curse of evolution.

As for porn, I could suggest focus on stuff that shows that women enjoy sex too, and seek to understand how women enjoy sex, but enjoy it somewhat differently then men. Seek to feel the whole woman as a person, not just a body. Focus on the woman's face and seek to know her as a person.

As for anxiety, the best suggestion I have is try some Mindfulness Meditation. Start with one minute. Just focus your full attention on the present moment. See if you can do that for one minute. There's an app called "Headspace" you can download onto your cell phone. There are short animated videos at the beginning of lessons 3, 5, 7, & 9 which explain the idea. This will slowly train your brain in a way which strengthens a certain part of it which will have the side effect of lowering your social anxiety (pretty neat trick!)

Best wishes!

[mrabused]

thanks for the advice's mates!! =D
ill be sure to get rid of this addiction, hopefully anyway! haha

[.Brittany.]

It seems like you are satisfied with the replies you have received. With that, I'm going to go ahead and close this thread. Please PM me if you'd like me to reopen it or you can just start a new thread.

Good luck!
Brittany