Saw the doctor today...

[Tigerlily.]

And basically I didn't tell her about my eating problems. I have an undiagnosed ENDOS and I'm also extremely overweight. Well it's obvious from the scale especially that I am and now she's decided that we're going to "get aggressive" about my weight and I'm going on a medically supervised protein diet. I'm scared it'll trigger a relapse because I'm trying to get better but with my eating disorder, I was either binge-ing or not eating at all, depending on how I felt, and well I'm scared because I would also purge and I've done this self detox off the laxatives, it was hard and I don't want to go back to that. I don't know what to do. She was even considering having us look into gastric bypass... I'm only 15...

[Loving Linux Penguin]

I think you should tell her about your concerns. Your doctor is there for one reason: to help you. Keeping a health concern to yourself isn't gonna get you much of anywhere. Let her know how you are feeling about all this--give her some feedback. I'd bet you anything that she really WANTS to know how you are feeling about all this. I hope things work out okay for you.

[Dr.Bobby]

Cheye, how come you didn't tell her? We can't help you if we don't know what's going on.

So, she's (rightly) assessed you're overweight and (rightly) decided to offer treatment. However, the treatment is based on incomplete information, so it won't be as effective as it otherwise would, or worse, it could be detrimental, since it doesn't take your self inflicted eating issues into account. This isn't at all good! Besides, her treatment probably won't work, and she'll recognize that and begin to ask questions. Which, eventually, I assume you'll answer.

So, why waste time and engage in a treatment that (at best) won't work, or (at worst) might be harmful, and just call her up and discuss what's really going on for you so she can devise a proper treatment?

[Coffee.]

This must be so rough, I'm sorry Cheye! This has been going on so long, and it's horrible to watch this harm you.

I know it's hard, but you need to tell her the entire situation! With a diagnosis, your treatment plan can vary drastically, this may cause relapse and for you to harm yourself more. We're always here for you, please talk to him! You deserve to be happy with your body, and be able to be healthy as well.

Message me if you ever need, I'm always here!

[Tigerlily.]

Thank you guys. I guess I'm just so wary to say it because my aunt was in the room at the time as well and she knows I have this undiagnosed EDNOS, but she doesn't know about the purging, only about binge-ing or eating very little. And it's just hard because I don't see anyone, even a doctor believing that someone who is grossly obese BMI wise and otherwise stating, would have an eating disorder where they also restrict or starve. It's not even diagnosed and I probably wouldn't fit any criteria even for an EDNOS and I don't want her to think I'm lying just because I'm fat. I'll tell her when she has us go in for the results of a blood test I took yesterday.