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friend1234 March 4th 2012 05:41 AM

Girlfriend Bulimia
 
Hi, my girlfriend had bulimia and told me about it about about a couple months ago and told me she'd stop. So its now two months later and she tells me she needs help. I'm always there for her, i see her a lot and she seems fine and she's tall and beautiful and i don't know why she insists on continuing. She tells me she pukes every time she eats anything. i need help on how to help her because i really care about here.

advice from anyone would help. I am totally clueless on how to help.

BulletHoles March 5th 2012 09:35 PM

Re: Girlfriend Bulimia
 
Start by asking her why she feels as though she needs to do this.
Then address that first. Make her feel beautiful and tell her to try to stop, for you. Make her a promise. You'll stop doing something that bothers her, if she stops this.
Make sure you don't come off as judgmental, only concerned. Don't force the idea on her.
But if this doesn't work and you still are really worried about her tell her how concerned you are. Tell her that you don't like to see her doing this to herself and that you'll have to take other steps. Such as telling someone, only because you care. Again don't say it angrily, be kind and gentle.
PM me anytime.

Dr.Bobby March 5th 2012 11:52 PM

Re: Girlfriend Bulimia
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by BulletHoles (Post 828267)
Start by asking her why she feels as though she needs to do this.
Then address that first. Make her feel beautiful and tell her to try to stop, for you. Make her a promise. You'll stop doing something that bothers her, if she stops this.
Make sure you don't come off as judgmental, only concerned. Don't force the idea on her.
But if this doesn't work and you still are really worried about her tell her how concerned you are. Tell her that you don't like to see her doing this to herself and that you'll have to take other steps. Such as telling someone, only because you care. Again don't say it angrily, be kind and gentle.
PM me anytime.

^This. +1!:)

Being a friend means being suportive and understanding and loving and honest. It alio means putting all that into action when you become aware that soemone is out of control and needs more than you can give.

Just Peachy. March 10th 2012 07:37 PM

Re: Girlfriend Bulimia
 
Hey there,

First, it takes a lot for a person with an eating disorder to admit that they need help. So be proud of your girl friend. She wants to recover! You sound like such a supportive boyfriend, and that's wonderful. Now, eating disorders are a very mental thing. So chances are, she's engaging in this behaviour to cope with something going on. You can ask her why she does these things, and try to help her with that. Also, encourage her to seek professional help as soon as you can. Eating disorders can generally be long lasting. What I mean is, while she can improve the bahviour and feelings- she's still going to sometimes battle that. Tell her she is beautiful and just be a support. Be there to listen when she needs it. Tell her she can call you when she feels like purging (only if you're willing).

Take care,
And good luck! :D


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