Triggering (ED): Body dysphoria (TW)

[PlutoTheOpposum]

Goddd, so many posts today. Sorry about that.
Anyways, I've been feeling really dysphoric about how I look. I guess it kinda ties back into being non-binary, but I dunno. Like, I KNOW I'm fat, and I'm trying to lose weight, but I always fall back in the binge - starve cycle. It especially doesn't help that my mom told me I can't get my hair cut because I'm too big.
The problem is most of my weight is in my chest/thighs, and so that only makes me look EXTRA feminine. Idk, I guess I'm scared I'll just fall back into that not-eating cycle.

yee.

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I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this!

It does not seem fair that your mom won't let you cut your hair just because of your weight. The two things aren't related at all! Do you have another parent who may be willing to help you compromise with your mom or take you to get your hair cut themself?

It actually makes it harder to lose weight when you are starving yourself. Your body tends to go into survival mode, which doesn't help. Are you able to talk to a doctor or nutritionist and develop a diet plan that is healthy and safe?

Remember that skipping meals can lead to more binging later on, so it makes it important to eat balanced meals every day. Think of food as what it is, a way to provide your body with energy and the nutrients that it needs to keeps going. Food isn't "good" or "bad" and everything is okay in moderation.

Identify things that trigger you to either restrict or binge. Do certain things play an important role, like stressors in your life, certain events or activities, or something else? Once you know your triggers it may help you to find ways to cope with them.

Remember not to give the scale control over you and not to give it all the power. You are valuable at any weight. Your worth is not defined by a number on the scale and anyone who says otherwise is wrong.

I know you can do this.

[Arabesque- golfing girl.]

Hello,

I am so sorry that you are having a hard time with this and I hope that you will be okay soon.

Having on the perfect outfit and getting your hair cut feels so lovely and you get to be who you want to be. I'm sorry you are not able to cut your hair, would you be able to see about talking to a teacher or school counselor and let them know about this and see if you the school counselor or teacher can all talk to your parents and you with them and talk about how you have been feeling and how you want to look. They maybe they will be able to help all of you to work together and come together as a family. Sometimes we just need an extra person with us who is helping us out. If you are having a hard time saying all of this out loud, then try writing everything down on paper and give this to them to read.

Also what Dez is saying is true, if you do not eat you are going to have a harder time losing weight. Try eating healthier if you can, for example try not to eat junk food everyday or so many times in a day if you eat this. Also when you feel like binge eating, try finding something to get your mind off of this for a while. If you feel like reading or playing games or going outside and finding something fun to do or in your house and focus on that for a while, you can even try drawing or painting or listening to music and this can help pick you up and take your mind off of what you are going through. I hope you will be okay soon.

[Cherrylicious]

Have you tried putting your hair into a ponytail or a spiraled bun (you just need 2 hair elastics to pull it)? That may help with the dysphoria.