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ok. yesterday I went to school for the first time in a while, and I told my favorite teacher from last year I was inpatient at IOL in my state. She said "Aww... I'm sorry, my son and I have both been there"...I'm sorry WHAT DID SHE JUST TELL ME!? I knew she had an eating disorder when she was a kid and I suspected she self-harmed since she never wore short sleeves or shorts/skirts(when she wore dresses she wore leggings/tights under them). This woman...I would fucking kill for her. I love her so much, in a way if she was my mother. She was more of a mother than my actual mother was too me. She was the reason I recovered from MY eating disorder. AND SHE TOLD ME SHE'S BEEN INPATIENT BEFORE!?? I know I learned a lot of shit, like her sons almost being arrested last year and why, her parents dying(everyone learned that), her heart problems, her old eating disorder,...and now this. I'm too scared to tell her anything since I learned everything with her. What should I do? Should I just be there to support her? Like I don't know what's right...? Do I take space since I'm only 12, do I stay there to support her, do I pretend she didn't tell me anything and everything went back to normal? What do I do? I'm so scared for her and I don't want to make anything worse for her.

Re: Vent abt school

That's a tricky situation to be in.

It's nor your job to support your teacher and your teacher would be crossing some boundaries if she started asking you for support. It would be best to treat her like you have been treating her all this time.

If your favorite teacher wasn't in the headspace to talk to you about what's happening in your life she'd tell you that she isn't able to talk to you at this time. There's a good chance that she's in a better place now and more able to hear about what's going on with you. I don't think you have to stop asking her for support.

Re: Vent abt school

Okay, thank you, I just...didn't know what to do. She would be crossing a line professionally and boundaries if she did reach for me for support, but at the same time I'd be willing to help...yk?

Re: Vent abt school

Hi, I hope you will be okay soon and everything works out for you soon. :hug: