rape?

[BethGoesRawr]

Hey, just would like some back up on what happened.


Me and a friend (a guy) were in his house...and he pushed me to the floor and put his hand down the back of my tights and asked if he could finger me, I said no and he kept asking and moving his hand round the front but I was struggeling and trying to get away but we were against a wall. He took his hand out of the side and pushed himself almost ontop of me and put his hand down and started rubbing me....he then pushed my head against the wall with his chest and made me suck him........

Im not sure what this is, is it rape?...I was crying at the end of this..

[Cullen]

If you did not want it to happen, its definitely abuse. You should talk to someone about this, like your parents, a teacher or guidance councillor at school, or if you're feeling brave enough, go straight to the police.

[BethGoesRawr]

He would hit me, he has pretended to rape me and we had a laugh about it....but this time it was like..serious

[Jesus Christ.]

Sounds more like sexual assault than rape.

[Stargazed.]

Hey there,

Although it wasn't technically rape, it was sexual abuse. You told him "no" and you fought back. Those are both signs of abuse. I'm very sorry you've encountered this. It's going to be very tough but in order to get help, you've got to talk to someone about what he did to you. No human being should ever have to go through this and feel as bad as I know it feels.

You need to report him to your local authorities so he can't do this to someone else. You should also consider speaking with an adult who can be supportive to you in this time.

If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to PM or VM me. I'm always around and I'd be more than happy to help.

Take care.

[ForgetMeNot9]

Hey there,

What you're describing definitely sounds like sexual assault. You told him "no" and were obviously uncomfortable with this happening - that is more than enough to warrant this to be as such.

You should tell a parent, teacher, or someone else who you trust about this. You can also contact your local authorities.

Your friend who did this to you had no right. And as scary as it is right now, the sooner you tell someone the better.

Stay safe and take care.

[Coffee.]

The techinical differences between this being a sexual assault or a rape don't matter as much as the fact that he had no right to do this to you and you need to get yourself help. He forced you to perform sexual acts upon him, and you have the right to help. I know you are afraid that he will hurt you, but he also could hurt you lie this again if you do not get help. I know it's scary but we're here if you need help!

[Veni Vidi Vici]

Like the others said, this was sexual abuse without a doubt. You have to confront your "friend," and talk to an adult so this doesn't get too out of hand. At your age, you shouldn't have to worry about this kind of stuff; I'm really sorry this has happened to you...

[WhisperingSilence]

It wasn't rape but It was sexual assualt, either way he should not have done it, and like others have said you said no and he didn't listen. You need to tell someone like the police, a teacher at school or your parents. It would probably be a good idea not to see this guy again and not go to his house again. I also wouldn't call this guy a friend - friends don't do those sort of things. You really do need to tell someone.

[HisPrincess]

Even though so many others have supported you in this, I know how important another opinion can be, so I decided to respond as well. Sweetie, I'm so sorry. None of this should have happened to you. This was sexual assault, and someone needs to find out about this so he doesn't do this again. Do you have a trusted adult that you could talk to about this? If you feel comfortable, going straight to the police would be a better option as well.

I saw you mentioned that he has hit you before, that is abuse in and of itself as well. This guy is no good and he needs to be stopped. You deserve so much better. I'd encourage you to make sure you're safe and then tell someone you can trust. I know it might be scary to talk to someone about this for the fear he'll find out you told, but the more trusted adults get involved, the safer you'll be in the long run. Good luck sweetie, I'm here for you if you ever need someone to talk to.

~ Jelli1224