Keeping a child from a rape?
 

Mk so...about 3 weeks ago I was raped and for the last week I've had bad nausea and feel like I'm not getting enough sleep...pretty sure I'm preggers but idk if I should keep the baby? I don't condone abortion but I think I'll regret an adoption.

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hm. I think I should get that as a tattoo "Beauty can come from the worst of situations". I'm taking a pregnacy test in 2 weeks, my friend Cory asked me to wait logner than I want so there's not a big risk of false negative. I really want to keep it, I just kinda feel like...it's a gift from God.

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Yeah I agree with Hannah, have a pregnancy test first so you know if you are pregnant or not before worrying yourself about what to do with the baby.

On whether to keep the baby or not if you are pregnant, it is entirely your decision. Whatever you decide in the end is the right decision for you, so don't regret anything afterwards. Just think about it a lot before hand, so you feel that you made the right choice. :) And I'm sure you'll get support that you need whatever you decide.

PM me anytime if you need to :) Take care

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the thing is...I don't know how on earth I'd tell my parents. "Oh by the way I ignored your rule about no boys when I was on vacation, got myself raped and knocked up." my mom's husband hates me to start with.

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that's precisly why I don't live with them anymore - they don't give a care about me.

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It's not your fault, and so they shouldn't blame you for it. Just do what's right for you, only you know what that is.

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Actually, instead of in at-home pregnancy test, you might want to go to your doctor, or your nearest planned parenthood, and get them to do a pregnancy test. They can also test you to make sure he didn't give you anything nasty, or anything nasty for the baby.

Keeping the baby is your decision, but I'll tell you this, it won't be easy. If you can handle having your rapists baby, then you are a hell of a lot stronger than me. To keep that baby, well that takes courage and strength, because chances are you'll be raising this baby by yourself. But if you think you can do this, then go for it. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, and it is totally not your fault that you got raped. Just hang in there.

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The way i figure it - if I do abortion it's murder and if I give it up for adoption there's no guarantee those people will actually take good care of my child. Even if I give it up for adoption it's still MY child - MY flesh and blood. Even if I had open adoption, there's no guarantee I can make sure that the baby is taken care of properly.

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Guys, I'm just going to say this now, let's not have this become a fight about abortion risky vs adoption. It's your body. Abortion is not murder, since it isn't actually a baby yet. At this stage, if you are pregnant, it's barely a fetus. However, it is your choice. Planned Parenthood will not force you to get an abortion, they will actually help you figure out what you want to do, so talking to them might help. Keeping a baby from rape is really risky and tricky. Some women can't see past the fact that it is their rapist baby, and..well it often ends badly for the child if it is born. My point is, you need to think this through first. And you need to talk to someone about this, thoroughly. There is no easy way out here, either way will cost you, but you have to weigh whether you can handle a child, or whether maybe it would be best to either abort or give this one up, because you can always have a baby when you are ready. Just think this through.

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The point of an adoption is to give up a baby to a family who will be able to provide for it better than you are... adoptive parents are vetted very seriously by agencies and they often really want a baby to love, especially if they cannot have their own baby naturally. You can choose the family your baby is adopted into, have an open adoption, etc. But if you feel you can do a better job, then by all means keep the baby.

It's a little early to start seeing symptoms of pregnancy... my advice is to go to Planned Parenthood or your doctor to get tested and get information on all of your options.

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Go with your heart...and your mind. If you truly feel you can and want to keep the child, do it. If, for certain reasons you feel unable to take care of the child, adoption is an option. We planned on adopting once (didn't go through, personal reasons) and we had like 2 years of red tape and a social worker visited our house so adoption is an option.

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BE STRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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prego test this morning came up positive, I dunno what I'm gunna do.

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What happened to you is not your fault. Your parents would understand that. Just tell them the simple truth of what happened to you without going into much detail. They will support you and help you get through this. Try to stay calm, it will all be okay.

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Hi there. :)
First of all, as a survivor of rape myself, you are much stronger than I am. If I had gotten pregnant, I couldn't have done anything other than give it to another couple who want a child but cannot.
So let's review your options:
Abortion: I am extremely against abortion in all cases, even in rape, so I would not advise you to do this. No one judge me, even if I did get pregnant by my rapist, I wouldn't have dreamed of getting an abortion, the life that would be starting should not be snuffed out because their father was an idiot.
Adoption: People are put through the wringer getting a baby to adopt, so the chances that the adoptive parents won't be capable of raising your child are slim, if they exist at all. And most of these couples are unable to have children, whether it be because they are gay, single, or just plain unable to have children. You can choose the parents if you prefer, and an open adoption is always an option.
Or if you would rather, keep the baby. I personally haven't checked, but I think that there is a way to get some money to help care for your child. And if you are strong enough to do this, bravo.
I may be young, but keep in mind that I had to face the fact that I might be going through a situation much like yours not too long ago.
I'm here to talk if you need someone. This is a hard time in your life, and no one should have to deal with this alone.