Re: losing my marbles -
August 6th 2021, 02:02 AM
I'd say there are two options here.
You said there is abuse going on. If you feel comfortable with it, one option you have is to just leave. Honestly, you don't owe him an explanation of why you're leaving if he is abusing you. You just deserve to be safe and he has no right to be abusing you in any way, shape, or form. Block him on social media and do not contact.
If you do want to talk to him though, that's still an option of course. Since you're at a point where you are feeling like screaming, I'd take a step back at least for tonight. There's no use trying to get through to him when you're angry yourself and clearly he's not in the mood to talk right now. why get worked up over a guy who isn't even giving you the time of day right now? Instead, come back and talk when both of you have gotten some sleep and may be in a better mood.
If you do talk to him after getting some rest, maybe start out by saying that you really feel the need to talk to him about something that has been going on lately. Make sure to use I statements instead of telling him that he's done something directly. For example, you can say "I feel like I am not being heard," instead of telling him "you never listen to me." This tends to make people a little less defensive.
If he continues to ignore you and doesn't change, I'd leave him. You mentioned that there was abuse, and you don't deserve to be in a situation where someone treats you like that. There are definitely a ton of better guys out there.
Do you ever get a little bit tired of life
Like you're not really happy but you don't wanna die
Like you're hanging by a thread but you gotta survive
'Cause you gotta survive
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