Female Advice Preferred: I was almost raped

[TH Anonymous]

[SIZE="a"]The other day I was almost raped. I don't know if I should tell my head of year or keep it to myself because I don't want them to tell my parents. What should I do? Sum1 plz reply asap[/size]

[Doglover2]

You should tell your head of year.
I know it was an "almost" rape, BUT telling them will give them a heads up and can warn the others. If they believe you are in danger, they will have to tell your parents. But try requesting to be anonymous or not tell people you said this. Hopefully they will listen.

[Eesha123]

Originally Posted by Doglover2

You should tell your head of year.
I know it was an "almost" rape, BUT telling them will give them a heads up and can warn the others. If they believe you are in danger, they will have to tell your parents. But try requesting to be anonymous or not tell people you said this. Hopefully they will listen.

I understand what you’re saying but at the same time it was my fault Becuz I did get myself into the situation and I feel like I need to get it out of my system.

[Celyn]

I'm sorry to hear that you were almost raped. It sounds like a scary experience for you and keeping it to yourself may only make you feel worse.

Telling someone is a big step, and it's okay to feel nervous. It's entirely up to you who to tell, but I'm wondering why you don't want your parents to know? Telling a teacher, head of year, school counsellor, close relative or friend is a good idea as you will be able to get the support you need and deserve. You don't have to deal with this alone and whatever the reason that's behind not wanting your parents to find out shouldn't stop you from talking about the experience and getting help. And if talking is hard, you can always write it down or bring a supportive person along to help explain what happened.

Edit: Just saw your response above. It doesn't matter how you got into the situation, what matters is that someone tried to violate your boundaries. You can't control their behaviour, only they can.

[Eesha123]

Originally Posted by Celyn

I'm sorry to hear that you were almost raped. It sounds like a scary experience for you and keeping it to yourself may only make you feel worse.

Telling someone is a big step, and it's okay to feel nervous. It's entirely up to you who to tell, but I'm wondering why you don't want your parents to know? Telling a teacher, head of year, school counsellor, close relative or friend is a good idea as you will be able to get the support you need and deserve. You don't have to deal with this alone and whatever the reason that's behind not wanting your parents to find out shouldn't stop you from talking about the experience and getting help. And if talking is hard, you can always write it down or bring a supportive person along to help explain what happened.

Edit: Just saw your response above. It doesn't matter how you got into the situation, what matters is that someone tried to violate your boundaries. You can't control their behaviour, only they can.

Thank you so much for your reply and I think I will try and tell a teacher what happened

[Celyn]

Hope things go well when you tell the teacher. Keep us updated if it helps!

[Eesha123]

Originally Posted by Celyn

Hope things go well when you tell the teacher. Keep us updated if it helps!

Thank you and I’ll keep you updated

[mentalhelp.21]

I would tell at least some trusted adult. This is a very serious topic and it's not safe to deal with it alone. I've been there and it helps to have a good support system and have people look out for you.