Rape or overreacting?

[estebansfiesta]

I think I was raped by my boyfriend. We were hanging out, making costumes for a play we were putting on, and he started...masturbating. right in front of me. We have had sex before, and I've given him a blow job, so he expected that he would be able to use my mouth to, um... get rid of the evidence. I told him repeatedly that I didn't want to but he kept pressuring me and finally put his penis in my mouth. I had to swallow because I had no other options at the moment. I almost threw up and he was offended. He asked me why I was so upset, and I said "I think you just raped me." He told me I was being ridiculous and that it wasn't rape, but I think it might have been. I haven't told anyone about this and it's still bothering me even though it's been a couple of months. I need help figuring out if I was actually raped or if I am overreacting.

I think that this would count as rape/sexual assault. You told him no but he proceeded to force you to give him oral sex. The fact that he forced you to perform a sex act is enough grounds to say that he assaulted you. I would suggest that you end the relationship with him because it's apparent that he is not going to respect your wishes. When you really care about someone and their well-being you don't force them to have sex. You respect that they are not up to it and you move on.

If you ever want to talk to someone feel free to message me. I am here and willing to listen.

[Palmolive]

Hi there.

I definitely think this would count as sexual assault. What your boyfriend did to you was wrong and you shouldn't have had to go through that and I can't even begin to imagine how you must be feeling but know that we're here for you okay? Have you tried reaching out to anyone for some help and support with what has happened? Talking to us is great but sometimes having someone to talk to face to face is a lot more beneficial. Also have you considered whether you want to stay with your boyfriend with what he has done? I know there is a lot to take in but you can get through this, just don't be alone, okay? We're here for you. I'm here for you and you aren't alone.

You can get through this, okay? Stay strong and please reach out for help.
Jessie.