I think I was raped?

aimee187 · 12:32 AM

So I met this guy at a night club and we got talking. decided when we were drunk we should meet up. The next day he called me asking me to go to his and I decided it was best not to go because I knew he would just want sex and I wasn't up for that. After I blew him off I thought I would never hear from him again but he would call me like 2 times a day and he seemed really genuine so I decided to go to his the next again day. I figured we would just chill with some TV (naive from me I guess) but once I walked in and realized there wasn't a TV I became uncomfortable. He immediately went to kiss me which I don't mind but things started heating up. I could feel him rubbing up against me so I told him "I don't think I want to do this". He would just look at me and smile and reply "it's okay babe, we can wait, we are going to be together anyway, yeah?" He didn't stop. He would just say stuff like "your so beautiful babe" and smile at me when I said I didn't want to do it. Though and I told him another 2 times but he continued to undress me. I was too scared to actually get up or confront him since [Edited] he was built like a wrestler so I just kind of lay there :S and it was becoming harder to speak since he was lying on top of me and forcing his tongue down my throat.is this rape or not? I didn't actually use any physical force which I know I should have. I feel so ashamed for just lying there and not trying harder to do something
He then proceeded to tell me how I would move to England with him

NevermindMe · **Re: I think I was raped? -** July 8th 2012, 10:44 PM

So you said "no" the total of three times, right?

Then he raped you. It may have been a communication issue, or maybe he really is a horrible person. I would inform him that what he did was rape and how you feel about it. I would also avoid future contact with him.

- Justin

JVlifeonstandby · **Re: I think I was raped? -** July 9th 2012, 12:40 AM

I would call it rape as well..

Coffee. · **Re: I think I was raped? -** July 9th 2012, 01:43 AM

Hey there,

You not only said no, you never gave consent at all. This was rape. Now, what you want to do about it? That's up to you. Is this somebody you still want to be with? If so, you need to let him know that no means no, and that he can not take advantage of you like that. I think this is very bordering misunderstanding and not respecting. And whether or not you want to be with him or not, you definitely should seek counseling about what has happened, or at least tell somebody so you won't feel so alone.

Good luck!