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October 7th 2012, 03:10 PM
I went on Tumblr. 
From day one I talked about getting out
But not forgetting about
How all my worst fears are letting out
He said, "Why put a new address on the same old loneliness?"
When breathing just passes the time
Until we all just get old and die
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October 7th 2012, 04:44 PM
Pretending my boyfriend is with me.
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October 8th 2012, 07:19 PM
Primarily three things:
1) Truly knowing and accepting that I cannot SH anymore. I recognize the effects my SH has on my life and my relationships. I can and choose to no longer jeopardize my stability, my well-being, my happiness, my relationships and my physical life.
2) Practicing self-kindness and compassion. I know I am a worthwhile human being who deserves to be loved and cherished, and I treat myself as such. The more I show myself compassion, the easier it is to remember I deserve happiness instead of pain and grief.
3) Working through my emotions. Self-harm was how I distracted myself from focusing on my feelings. Now if I am angry, or upset, or sad, or anxious I sit with the feeling and work myself through it in healthy and constructive ways, like going for a run, watching or reading funny things, cleaning or talking to a trusted friend or family member.
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October 8th 2012, 09:25 PM
My boyfriend tbh.
He keeps me from it, and he makes me promise not to.
But when I'm with him, I can't do it.
I'm just happy. <3
A beautiful thing is never perfect.
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October 8th 2012, 10:36 PM
i play with a blob of blu-tac to keep my hands busy.
i keep a journal for my emotions.
i made bracelets representing my best friends and my boyfriend so i think of them instead of harming.
i talk to my boyfriend about it and usually he manages to talk me out of it.
i talk to someone on here whenever i have something that may trigger me.
little stuff like that
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October 9th 2012, 07:00 AM
I have quite the list but lately here are some of the things that keep me going...
-I made a list of all the reasons I needed to quit harming myself
-I have an amazing support system of online friends and TH members who encourage me to keep going and are there to talk things out when I need them. Not sure if any of them will read this post but to all of you THANKS..a thank you is not enough but unfortunately its all I can give you back. Your unwavering support means more to me than you can even begin to imagine
-I bought a bracelet with a quote I love "Dreams become a reality one choice at a time"--I wear it every single day and it reminds me that the little choices matter and I need to hang in there
-I've reached 7 months and am nearing 8 months free of self harm...something I'm not ready to give up
-truthfully? a lot of it is to prove to myself and my ex that I'm not as much of a mess and disaster as I have been previously. Hurting my ex and putting him through all the things i put him through...and watching our relationship crumble is one of my biggest motivations to keep going. I want him to go on with his life and move past the shit I put him through..I don't want him to have to worry about me anymore…and I NEVER want him to see me break down again.
-I want to prove that I'm strong enough to quit without leaning on him and without therapy etc
-for all the people I’ve promised I wouldn’t harm myself anymore.
-so my parents never have to know how bad it got and I don’t have to cause my brother and parents the same pain n struggles that my brother’s depression and self-harm caused me
-I’ve already screwed up my knuckle…probably for good since it still gives me trouble and hurts close to a year later. My damage and scars were becoming more serious…basically just recognizing the long-term effects my self-harm was leaving me with physically as well as emotionally
· the emotionally and mentally draining effects and just the emotional/mental exhaustion of dealing with the issue—it effected/s every relationship I had as well as my capability to enter into new relationships and friendships…I entirely closed myself off from the world
-my self-harm had a lot to do with feeling in control and I definitely let it spin out of control…so Im trying to make quitting about regaining control and proving I can make it without it
-the little things: simply keeping myself busy with other things, texting someone when Im low, pinterest, movies, anything to distract myself, blogging, reading TH posts and blogs, cuddling a pillow or stuffed animal, sleep, etc…Its all about the little victories…each day hr or even minute I was/am self harm free means Im better off than I once was.
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October 10th 2012, 12:45 AM
I have a few today:
-Music
-I want people to trust me
-Im happier when i don't cut
From day one I talked about getting out
But not forgetting about
How all my worst fears are letting out
He said, "Why put a new address on the same old loneliness?"
When breathing just passes the time
Until we all just get old and die
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October 10th 2012, 12:02 PM
I put the tool away. For Peter. <3
Do you ever get a little bit tired of life
Like you're not really happy but you don't wanna die
Like you're hanging by a thread but you gotta survive
'Cause you gotta survive
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October 12th 2012, 06:45 PM
I don't want my boyfriend to look at the damage done and ask me what made it.
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October 12th 2012, 10:09 PM
I cried, a lot
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October 12th 2012, 11:17 PM
Cried a lot, attempted to play the piano, and texted my best friend. I was so close...I'm so glad my friend texted when she did; things were pretty bad.
"Just open your eyes and see that life is beautiful..." ~Sixx:A.M.
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October 14th 2012, 01:29 PM
Its difficult to stop SH when there's no one around you who really understands, who i can talk to...any advice for what i can do?
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October 14th 2012, 05:36 PM
I'm not putting a downer on our anniversary.
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October 15th 2012, 11:15 AM
Trying to hide from the world so I have no reason. I still find reasons locked away.
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When you can no longer think of a reason to continue, you must think of a reason to start over.
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October 18th 2012, 04:55 AM
I exercise to curb my craving. Knowing that I'm doing something to benefit my body instead of harming it gives me the extra encouragement I need to make it to my one year mark of being self harm free. Today is day #96. I can do it.
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October 26th 2012, 10:52 PM
Drawing.
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November 2nd 2012, 01:28 AM
Not being satisfied with the tools I have.
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November 2nd 2012, 05:21 AM
I haven't thought about harming myself at all since I got my kitten Charlie
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November 2nd 2012, 01:29 PM
Facebooking 24/7 or making myself busy with all the pending schoolwork.
All we can do is Keep Breathing...!
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November 3rd 2012, 09:28 PM
Listening to and creating music. Eating one spicy thing a day keeps the endorphins in check.
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November 5th 2012, 03:07 AM
Cried and then went to bed to sleep the frustration away.
Do you ever get a little bit tired of life
Like you're not really happy but you don't wanna die
Like you're hanging by a thread but you gotta survive
'Cause you gotta survive
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November 5th 2012, 04:56 AM
Well music has been stopping me lately. Or the promise I made to my best friend.
From day one I talked about getting out
But not forgetting about
How all my worst fears are letting out
He said, "Why put a new address on the same old loneliness?"
When breathing just passes the time
Until we all just get old and die
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November 10th 2012, 03:47 PM
Taking super precautionary measures not to get caught, which actually makes it impossible. Whatever way it works, right?
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November 11th 2012, 01:29 PM
I've been on webcam with my beautiful friend for nearly 12 hours.
And I'm seeing the crisis team soon. (we'll see if that helps.)
’Happiness can be found in the darkest of times, if only one remembers to turn on the light.’
Big sis, always and forever, 15/04/2018
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November 12th 2012, 10:25 PM
I listen to music that makes me happy
"Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise"
-Les Miserables
"All these thoughts locked inside, now you're the the first to know"
-"It ends tonight" All-American Rejects
"You built up a world of magic, because you're real life is tragic"
-"Brick by Boring Brick" Paramore
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November 12th 2012, 10:54 PM
I went to bed! Look at sleep, saving the day again.
Do you ever get a little bit tired of life
Like you're not really happy but you don't wanna die
Like you're hanging by a thread but you gotta survive
'Cause you gotta survive
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November 13th 2012, 02:38 AM
I was over 8 1/2 months self harm free, but I slipped up rather badly a week-ish ago. I could feel myself falling right back into the addiction, but I had a strong day on Thursday. I decided I didn't want it and I'm going to fight.
On Friday, my friend came over and helped me destroy then throw away my blade. I'll see how it goes from here.
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November 13th 2012, 07:19 AM
I think I'm going to talk to my boyfriend about it and ask him if he can help...
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When you can no longer think of a reason to continue, you must think of a reason to start over.
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November 15th 2012, 12:01 PM
I'm sat here replying to threads ... although I think I may fall asleep 
’Happiness can be found in the darkest of times, if only one remembers to turn on the light.’
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November 17th 2012, 01:06 PM
I did some writing, and hung out with friends. Now I'm too tired to even contemplate it. 
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November 18th 2012, 12:48 AM
I worked on therapy homework until I was so tired that I had to go to sleep.
"Shoot for the moon, even if you miss you'll land among the stars."
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November 18th 2012, 12:50 AM
I read a book and then wrote some more of my own...
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When you can no longer think of a reason to continue, you must think of a reason to start over.
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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
November 18th 2012, 01:51 AM
I wrote more for my essay. Now im watching a movie.
From day one I talked about getting out
But not forgetting about
How all my worst fears are letting out
He said, "Why put a new address on the same old loneliness?"
When breathing just passes the time
Until we all just get old and die
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November 22nd 2012, 07:48 PM
I wanted to cut my wrists again last week but I called my friends and she took me out and let me sleep over her house to take my mind off it
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November 23rd 2012, 05:15 AM
I asked my friend Justine to draw a butterfly on me. I DON'T want to kill it, so I've been staying strong.
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November 23rd 2012, 06:13 PM
Not wanting my boyfriend to feel like he's not good enough to make me happy.
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December 8th 2012, 01:52 AM
Listening to music
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December 8th 2012, 08:41 AM
Listening to music and sitting on here, next move to have a cold shower (as cold as I can stand) it's a hot night so yeah. Cold would give me a sensation
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When you can no longer think of a reason to continue, you must think of a reason to start over.
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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
December 8th 2012, 09:34 AM
Chatting with my family, called kids helpline, Going on YouTube, avoiding triggering material
Be like the turtle;
at ease in your own shell.
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December 8th 2012, 09:38 AM
Reading!!!! I tell myself that I need to get to page, say, 100, before I can SH, and by that point I'm too involved in the story to bother  Slightly strange, but it works for me
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