big problem with a friend
 

Sooo here's the problem.. There is one guy who is a good mate but recently I found out that he is actually in love with me. So far,no problem.. I can deal with it.
He knows about my issues with my parents,SH and my low self confidence.
But lately he has been saying things which really hurt me. He doesn't think before he speaks. And that's the problem.
He knows that I get easily depressed,believing everything's my fault and that I always blame myself. Still he says things like ' I wish I could go far away so that I can't see you ' or 'We shouldn't have met after all'.
After that I was so hurt and said that I was sorry for being alive. After telling him that he realised what he did and apologized.
But he is always sorry and says it will never happen again. And it happens again and again..
Now the whole situation gets worse, he thinks that he can't do anything right. Some days ago I had a really bad day and talked to my best friend about it.He was pissed off because I didn't talk to him as well. He even blamed me for it.
I just don't know what to do. I talked so many times with him but it doesn't seem to get better.
Today he even ignored me.
Can someone help me ? :/
Thaanks for reading x

Re: big problem with a friend
 

hey :)

I've got a guy friend issue as well, and i can sort of connect :)
First of all, is this guy really in love with you? or does he just claim to be? Being in love doesn't make one say hurtful things. Maybe he just likes something very special about you and thinks that to be love. also, sometimes boys say hurtful things, just to check whether you like them back. if he told you that he shouldn't have met you at all, maybe he wants you to say something like 'no ! i don't know how i would live without you!' or something like that. I'm not sure :P Boys can get like that though.
And about that second part, i guess he was pissed with you for not talking about your bad day with him maybe because he imagined you were close enough to tell him about it too. I would suggest keeping a little distance from him for a few weeks. what i mean is, dont keep talking to him about these little things every single day. in fact, don't mention them at all. if he is ignoring you, then he's expecting you to follow him around like a puppy. puppies are cute, but i doubt you would be so cute if you did that. say hi, how was your day. bring up nice topics and talk about good things. it will help you a lot, as well as your relationship. and, i would recommend the book You Can Heal Your Life by Louise L. Hay. She is an amazing person who has written an amazing book :)

Lots of love <3

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Re: big problem with a friend
 

Thank you :)
Honestly,I doubt that he is really in love with me. Like EnriqueFan said, those hurtful things.. he wouldn't say that if he was in love with me.
Today he apologized again, and it was a long apology.. We are talking now but whatever he says it makes me so annoyed. Now he wants to know the reason,I told him and now he's ignoring me again. I feel like I am doing just everything wrong !
I guess taking a small break is a perfect idea..

Re: big problem with a friend
 

He may being saying hurtful things because hes in love with you and, from what you've said in your post, you haven't acknowledged it. Try talking to him about his feelings towards you, and about the hurtful things he's said. Communication is key. Good luck <3