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My friend's cutting again

My best friend started cutting himself again, i dont know what to do.....
He stopped for a little while, but now he is again and I'm really worried
Can someone help?

Re: My friend's cutting again

Have you told him how you feel? :(

Re: My friend\'s cutting again

Ask him why he cuts, and if he wants to talk to you about how he\'s feeling and stuff
Or suggest he goes and talks to a counselor/parent/teacher
He\'s the only the one that can control if he cuts or not, but you can just stay by his side and be a supportive and caring friend.

Re: My friend\'s cutting again

Hey Magaly.

I think it\'s great you care about your friend so much. I know how hard it is to be in your situation, but the good news is, there\'s things you can do to help.

First, be there for him. Let him know you\'re concerned, and you want to help. Ask him if there\'s anything you can do to help him get through this, and invite him to talk to you about it. You could also encourage him to talk to other people, like his parents, or a therapist.

Second, you can suggest distractions, such as these. Help him find healthier coping mechanisms. You could even mention TeenHelp to him (but I understand if you don't want to; I wouldn't be comfortable if any of my friends from 'outside' were on here).

Finally, if you're ever really worried about his safety, it's best to tell someone, an adult. He may be angry at first, but eventually he'll thank you, because it's for the best. He's obviously going through a tough time, but this can also be hard on you, so remember to take care of yourself as well. If it's too much, reach out for help yourself. You don't have to do this alone.

Good luck.

Re: My friend's cutting again

I think it's best if you let him know you're there for him. It's best you provide support for him and help him to stop long term by targeting the reasons he cuts and by using some of the distractions from the link Chess reccommended.
I think you should encourage him to tell someone, but if he's not ready, having someone else know might make him worse and could ruin your friendship and he'll definately need support and friends.
Just remember he will be sensitive right now, and you shouldn't push him, be supportive and caring, let him know you want to help, and he should voluntary tell you about it, but he will probably benefit most from you just being there for him :)

Re: My friend's cutting again

Thanks everyone
He's getting help now
He's actually in the hospital, so i hope that'll help