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I'm just wondering how everyone here feels about "emo" jokes?

My little sister accused me of being "emo" when I accidently cut my arm today. She was making a joke out of it, but she doesn't know that I really do cut myself on purpose. It made me feel terrible though. And it was awkward when she laughed at her joke, and I didn't laugh in return. I felt sick to my stomach. I mean, I consider it an actual problem, and I'm not proud of it. And when people make jokes about it, it makes me both angry and sick. They have no idea what they're talking about. It's not funny.

So far, no one knows I cut. And I wonder if they'd make the same jokes if they knew or if they themselves cut... Personally, I will/have never made jokes about it. I don't think it's a subject to be taken lightly.

How do you feel when you hear someone make jokes/comments about it though? Do you say anything to them about it? Do you make jokes yourself?

Just wondering if I'm the only one who finds this a problem.

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my sisters like this i dress emo and she often says things like ' why dress emo all they do is cut' and she makes remarks about how i choose to dress. i also cut, and when my sister starts going on and on about emos and cutting, it pisses me off, yes im emo, yes i cut, my sister doesnt know that i cut either. i hate all the emo and self harm jokes people make. i cut for reasons i have my reasons why i cut and i dont cut because i dress emo like the emo and self harm jokes always seem to make out, i cut because i real reasons !

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I agree, it doesn't really bother me that much anymore. I think people know that it's a serious subject, but it's always good to be able to laugh too. I cut, and I still make jokes, but I also know the seriousness of it, so yeah. :) I just find it's not worth it to get mad or hurt about anymore.

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I dont like emo/cutting jokes but I do just laugh around with them. I've learned its better to just laugh then get offensive because people start to wonder if you really do cut.

One time a guy called me emo and a cutter because I had a cat scratch on my arm. I was like haha you know it but im really thinking if only you know.

I try not to take them personally though. i dotn think they mean any harm by it well atleast that guy didnt so I dont see any reason to get mad about it.

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I feel awkward when someone makes a joke about it. Not because I don't recognize that it is all in good fun. I just don't know how I should respond. At the mention of self harm in real life I don't really know what to say unless it is a serious conversation. I'm afraid that I'll say something where everyone will be like "OMG, she cuts doesn't she?" even though I haven't for over a year now. Idk haha. That's just me.

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There are some things you just don't joke about tbh. -.- SH is usually an indication that the sufferer is literally on the edge and barely coping from being so miserable. If someone makes an "emo joke" or makes fun of SH, it automatically puts them in my bad books, no questions asked. And if it's regarding a friend or a joke made directly to someone who suffers from SH/depression, I will say something, or take action.

Just for the record, I've never SH'd myself. But there are plenty of other things you can make a joke out of besides another persons misery. There's nothing funny about it whatsoever.

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Since I wear all black and DO cut myself yes people make jokes.
I ignore them , but if they get to far and really bug me I say something back. That rarely happens though.

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I haven't cut in years, but my body is riddled with scars regardless. Sometimes I feel like wearing a short sleeved shirt, and people will see them and not realize what they are, make a joke about cutting, and there I am thinking "Laugh it up, jack ass, that's what they're really from." I'm not going to deny that it stings a bit, but in all reality, you need to be able to laugh at yourself. It's definitely not a laughing matter, but what else can you do? If there's anything I've learned from Family Guy, it's that someone is always making fun of someone, and someone is always going to be hurt by that. So if you've ever made or laughed at a joke at someone else's expense (and admit it, we all have) you have to be ready to see the humor when someone does the same to us.

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I am not really offended about those jokes, because more often than not they come from a harmless place. It's about a caricature and a stereotype, not a malicious attack of an actual person. I make those jokes myself sometimes. I don't really have a problem with it, unless someone really is making a dig at people who cut themselves.

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I always get called emo too :/ and one day at drama, a boy said "What are those cuts on your hand, emo? Haha! Self harm cuts I guess!"
I almost cried at it, but I tried to laugh. Yeah, the jokes hurt, but you just have to try to get over it :(

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I cut too.And I hate SH joke but you cant do anything about them.If your sister makes emo and/or SH jokes and you dont like them then just ask her not to make them. Hope I've bean a help

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Eh I don't pay them any attention, they're only jokes. People make jokes about homeless people, physical ailments, mental illnesses, etc. and nobody is going to stop making those jokes not because they're ignorant, but because "behind every joke there is truth."
I'm not saying that every cutter is a stereotypical "emo" who whines all day and cuts for attention - but I'm not, nor have I ever met another cutter who was happy and you can't deny that.

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"Emo" refers to a type of rock music called Emotional Hardcore or Emocore, which eventually lead into screamo. It in no way ties in with self harm, therefore if anyone calls you emo just look at them and say "thanks, I do enjoy that type of music!" Unless you dont, then just look at them like they're crazy *)

Aside from that, jokes about self harm, as with other disorders, are just distasteful and insensitive. They're also hurtful. It can make people who secretly self harm not want to ask for help. And it can actually make people self harm just to get laughs or attention. We all need to start thinking a little more before we speak. You never know what the person next to you is going through.

And if you find someone who insists on making jokes about such things sarcastically tell them "Oh you're so witty and creative, I've never heard that before..." Emo jokes are getting really old and over-used so challenge them to come up with something new for a change. Most people don't like when you insult their jokes or flat out tell them they're lame. They usually move on to something else then.

And as always, remember that no matter how many people make jokes about it, there's plenty of us who understand and care so you're never alone and will always have someone to turn to when you need help. :hug:

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I have a friend who usedto cut and the other day in our yearbook class these two girls were joking around about emos. One of the girls was sitting in the corner with her hood pulled over her head, pretending to be depressed, and the other girl was practially screaming "omg!!! sammies emo!!!!" my friend got pissed off and yelled "Don't joke around about that stuff!!! I've been there, and let me tell you, it's not fun!!!" Then they backed off and went to the other side of the room. I cut, well used to, and I know its not fun, I get a little offended when people joke about it, but I laugh along with them, cause I used to make jokes about them before I cut. I'll laugh at the jokes, but I don't make them.

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cutting is terrible

i understand u'd be offended

but i do think it's rude to joke

hope i answered ur question

bye for now if u need help message me

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I take jokes of this sort very offensively.

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I've read through this and I have so many differing ideas. I hate those jokes. As someone who has struggled with self harm for several years, it's hard to hear the comments made. While I can't change the fact that people make those jokes, it's definitely a sensitive subject and something I think should be avoided.

What hurts me more is when friends who KNOW that's an issue make a joke that involves it. I can see your struggle.

Maybe one day I will laugh about it and make the jokes myself, but with as much pain as it has caused me, I can't see that being a joke I'll make. It doesn't seem fair.

It's like making gay jokes, or jokes about someone crying rape. That's an issue for me. I think our society needs a little lesson in sensitivity.

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When people pull out jokes about cutting, it can be quite awkward, seeing as I cut.
I just want to shrink into the ground and disappear, everybody laughs but I never can and i feel like everybody is staring at me, when, in reality they aren't.

Self harm shouldn't be taken lightly, and I would never joke about it, but the people that joke just don't understand it. And, it's not their fault really, it's just a joke to them. But, it's not nice for the people who genuinely know how it is to struggle with self harm.

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I personally can't stand jokes about cutting. I know they're jokes, but I've seen so many people become so hurt by them. They do offend me, a lot actually. However most of the time I just pretend to laugh it off, unless they direct it at a person. That's when I step up and know this needs to be dealt with. There was a situation I witnessed a girl making fun of another saying "Oh look I'm *namehere* and I cut myself!" She took a pencil and pretended to cut herself. I thought this was horrible.. so of course I said something.

Another type of joke that seems to be pretty common is people saying things like "Kill me" or putting their fingers up against their head resembling a gun, I personally do it myself sometimes. I don't find this is much of an issue in a way it's become more of a way of complaining I guess you could say. I've been suicidal in the past, and personally I don't find this offensive at all. It's something that people have done for so long. Though when people are mocking other people, or making fun of other people, then I find that it is an issue. But if it's simply a "Why me" type thing, I don't see too much harm in it.

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Making jokes about emo people is like... my hobby.
However, making jokes about people who self-harm for valid reasons (I worded that as well as I could, and I meant for reasons other than attention) is... only okay in certain contexts. I don't like them personally because I'm one of those people and I don't like joking about my issues, but to each his own.

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Sometimes when I'm talking about things like that with someone I'll laugh at their joke, or even make a joke, just to cover up the fact that I do it...

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i know what you mean where i work and when we're packing the cuboard and someone drops a pair of scissorcs on thier foot or something the person whos dropped them will say oww i dropped scissorcs on my foot or something like that theen people i work with will say ' your not self harming in that cuboard are you'. people where i work do not know i s/h but i do not like theese sort of jokes never have never will, i find thesse sort of jokes rather triggering.

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I believe it to be irresponsible.
It basically commercializes SH and puts a label on people who need genuine help, so that they deserve abuse.
It is horrible.

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I personally don't like cutting/emo jokes and get offended when they are told. They're still thrown around quite a bit here and I really wish I could tell them that they are wrong. I've experienced SH before and my friends don't know, but I still feel secretly hurt that they make those sort of jokes. However, I end up trying to ignore them.
I remember one joke where a kid was joking around out of the blue saying that he was going to kill himself and then was all saying "No, no, I'm joking, life is a beautiful thing." It got me mad.