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Cutting Him Off!

Basically I had a "thing" with this guy for about 8 months now, met all his friends, (friends with some of them), we hang out together, It's all good.

In the beginning I was pretty sure he liked me, and I liked him but I didn't act upon it. When we were together we would cuddle, makeout, hold hands. When we're together he's a nice guy, but we'll go from days to weeks without talking to each other, or he just won't reply to my texts or bails on plans a lot. About a month ago, I lost my virginity to him and we hung out a few more times after that, until recently we slept together again and it was great! He said he'll call me, and that was about 1 1/2 weeks ago. I was at a party his friend threw and I thought he was coming but he never showed up.I'm thinking it was because he found out I was coming too.

I'm pretty quiet, and I notice a lot of things people do and sometimes I over hear his friends talking about him and they'll mention things like, "Oh this dude, always bails on us saying he's bout to get laid" or, things like "This dude is soo crazy."

I get it, he's 20 years old, having fun and living his life, but I feel emotionally invested in what I thought we had. At first I was cool with messing around, and having fun but now I get this pain and hurt when I came to the realization that he's just an asshole, who sleeps around without thinking about the person he is hurting. I really feel like cutting off communication from him, and deleting him from everthing but that might seem childish. Should I ignore him? Or talk to him about this? Because it's really hurting me thinking about him being with another girl.

tl;dr , i like this guy i fucked, but i know he's an asshole and idk if I should cut him off completely, ignore him or talk to him.

Re: Cutting Him Off!

Hey there,

I think you should talk to him about it to find out if you guys want the same things. Maybe he is only looking for casual relationships, while you are looking for something more serious. If you talk to him and he does say that he's only looking for something casual, then you need to decide if you are alright with that, and if you're not, then just maintain your friendship with him without having anything more (because there's really not much point in cutting him off if he's just being honest).

Hope I helped, and feel free to talk to me if you want to!

Kyra :)

Re: Cutting Him Off!

It's really important that you talk to him. If you want any sort of future with him then you need to know how he feels too. If you think he's not a great guy, though, you need to think about how important that is to you. If you're okay with having sex with him every now and then, but then having him bail on plans, then go for it. But if you want a real relationship with commitment and love then maybe this guy isn't for you.

It's normal to get a bit hung up on the guy you first had sex with, but if it's not meant to be then it's not meant to be. You might end up getting more hurt if you try to commit to each other.

All in all, speak to him, see what he thinks about it all.