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Self Harm If you or someone you know is struggling with self harm and needs advice or alternatives, we're here to help.
The truth about self harm -
May 16th 2013, 09:49 PM
I think one thing that really bothers me about self-harm is that everyone gets the wrong idea. Maybe I would be more willing to seek help and tell people if they weren't so quick to judge. Everyone thinks that cutting is for attention, stuff like that. Ever think that maybe the person is genuinely depressed? That they actually do hate themselves? If I were cutting for attention, I would slit my forehead, not conceal the cuts under bracelets, or decorate my upper thighs. Not convinced? Go to google right now(triggering) and search "Cutters are" and let it autofill. See how disgusting that is?
I wish that when people caught glimpses of your scars, instead of judging and assuming that you are just trying to get attention, they would go over and wrap their arms around you and tell you that they'll help you through it.
Re: The truth about self harm -
May 16th 2013, 10:58 PM
i totally agree with this- mental illness as a whole suffers from a huge stigma. ultimately, i'm convinced that people don't want to see real suffering. sure, they stare at car accidents on the freeway but the second they see actual blood it's suddenly 'too far' and 'sick' and, worst yet, 'insane'. smoking cigarettes is just as damaging as cutting and (for the most part) socially acceptable.
there is no short term solution, education is the only way to make people begin to take the mentally ill seriously. it takes time, a lot of time.
this all sounds really frustrating for you, have you considered seeing a counselor?
Re: The truth about self harm -
May 16th 2013, 11:12 PM
Yeah, it is disgusting. This world is cruel. My search came up with, "emo, weak, attention seekers, stupid." I definitely agree with you. The problem is, while most people who self-harm don't do it for attention, there is a vey tiny percentage that do. Hence the bad stigma not only for cutting, but for any mental illness.
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Re: The truth about self harm -
May 16th 2013, 11:27 PM
Yeah, it definitely is bad. It upsets me when people call self-harmers "emo, stupid, attention-seeker" and make jokes like, "when I'm sad I cut myself... Another piece of cake".
Hopefully more people will start understanding better to help.