Relationships, Depression, Anxiety, Meds

[specspi]

Hello.

I've been dating my girlfriend for about 4 months now, and we had a lot of fun until mid-November. We were driving home from her house to mine, and I suddenly shut down. At first it had nothing to do with the relationship, I would just be in a bad mood. Eventually, I started to question if I actually loved her. Now it's gotten to the point where I am not happy no matter where I am, I have thoughts of hating her, not wanting to be around her, and every time we are together I feel distant and she notices it to. But here's the thing, I have no reason to hate her. We have a lot in common, she's a great girl with a great personality, and I proposed to her on Christmas. So why do I obsess over the negative feelings? I am on Prozac for about a week now, just switched from Zoloft. I also have thoughts that some times killing myself is the only way out of this. I also sometimes feel like breaking up is the other way out. Help?

[PSY]

Have you spoken to your doctor or psychiatrist about how you've been feeling lately? I'm guessing you have, since you recently changed medication; however, if you haven't been completely open with your doctor or psychiatrist, then now would probably be a good time to share everything you just shared with us.

It's natural for people to have ups and downs with relationships. You've only been dating for four months, and you've already proposed to her. Could it be that you've moved past the "honeymoon phase" (where everything is blissful and the conflicts/issues aren't as obvious), and the "reality" of this relationship/commitment is now beginning to have an effect on your mood? If so, then the good news is that effective communication may be able to salvage your relationship... but only if you're both willing to talk about what's going on and are willing to put in the time/effort needed to work through conflicts/issues.

You've probably heard the phrase, "suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem." Well, it's true. Please don't resort to something so drastic when there are so many other options you can explore! Talk to your doctor or psychiatrist and your fiancée about what's going on.